- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
This is my first time posting on the TTC section of these boards, because we’re not yet. We already know with about 95% certainty that we’re going to be looking for new jobs and moving next summer (late June/early July), and since we’re both re-entering glorious absurdity that is the academic job market in the humanities, we have absolutely no idea where we’re going next. It would make a lot more sense to wait and start trying in 6-9 months with the hope that we’d be pregnant in the next year. I turned 30 in February, and he’s 4 years older, so we don’t want to wait TOO long, but there’s no huge rush, either.
That being said…..
My period is late. Usually, my cycles clock in between 24 and 26 days, and my previous cycle was only 22 days. This annoyed me to no end; my mom’s been complaining about HER 22-day cycles for as long as I can remember, and it doesn’t leave much breathing space between periods. And, for the record, I get pretty nasty cramps. So I was kinda expecting my period on Friday, and certainly by Sunday. Didn’t happen; I’ve just had this weird crampy feeling since about last Thursday.
Yesterday, I had nothing to do but sit and home and think about this; the university where my husband is teaching started up yesterday, but I’m teaching at a school that doesn’t start till next week.
When my husband got home, I turned to him and said, “Um, soo—-what if I’m pregnant?”
It *could* happen. We’re not currently using either the pill (all varieties that I’ve tried make me very sick) or condoms (make both of us really unhappy, and I’ve got a latex sensitivity). We’ve been using the withdrawal “method”—yes, I know that that’s not a reliable form of birth control—since the honeymoon. HOWEVER, our romantic encounters have been few and far between since my last period; I’ve been sick. So it’s unlikely, but hypothetically possible.
My husband knows all of this, or at least I think he does. His grasp of female reproductive systems is sometimes kinda vague. His reaction, though, was BEYOND adorable:
“That would just be all kinds of exciting!!!!!! When our kid gets to be about 5–or maybe 16, when it would really embarrass him–we’d tell him how he wasn’t REALLY an accident, because we wanted kids. But he showed up way earlier than we planned, and we can tell him ALL about that!” (Uh-huh, my husband is convinced that our first child will be a boy. He’s the oldest son of an oldest son, and…yeah. There’s a patriarchal lineage thing going on. Don’t ask. My family, on the other hand, runs to girls. I know that this fact will have nothing to do with the actual sex of our child, but it’s fun to remind him when he gets going.)
Anyway, his enthusiasm made me laugh, and almost made me cry, and made me for sure wish that I WERE pregant. Which I’m not. I don’t think. If my period hasn’t shown up by Friday, I’ll take a test. 🙂