Post # 1
i am so annoyed right now that i asked my future sister-in-law to stand up in the wedding. my fiances family and mine (where we live too) is about 3 hours apart, so orginally we were doing one shower and inviting both families. as soon as my maid of honor sent out an email to all involved trying to divy out the shower responsibilities, my fiances family totally bulted! they have decided to throw a intimate couples shower on their side of the state and not help at all with the original shower. my SIL has even decided to not even come- or bring her daughters whom are my junior bridesmaids! i asked my Mother-In-Law if she could sent her availability to my Maid/Matron of Honor since she can’t make the original date we had planned on and she emailed her only saying “have fun, probably won’t be able to make it”- offering no alternate dates.
unbelievable! why do people have to make this so difficult? is it so much to ask to have both our immediate families attend one shower? oh well, i’m happy that my Future Mother-In-Law is going to make the trip still.
Post # 3
Bummer, but you’ll have fun anyway. No need in letting other peoples strange behavior ruin your time 🙂
Post # 4
omg i feel your pain!!! my fsil (also is a bm) and fmil skipped mine, and neither one even sent a card, and my fmil never even rsvp’d. in laws can suck, that’s all i can offer to you!
Post # 5
Not a single person from my hubs family attended my shower. I didn’t care. It was a great time to have fun with my BM’s (most of them) and my family.
Post # 6
That’s annying. At least they’re throwing you a separate shower! My IL’s are doing the same for me, but it’s b/c they live in MI and my ‘real’ shower will be in PA. So obviously all of the MI family won’t be able to make the PA shower. Maybe it has something to do with that!
Post # 7
Honestly, I don’t see it as a huge deal. Sure it would be nice if they let you know nicely, or decided on a second shower earlier. But brides have separate showers all the time. And often for this (or similar) reasons. Three hours away is kind of a crazy distance. It’s far to just drive to and back in one day, but doesn’t seem far enough to stay overnight. IDK.
They’re throwing you another shower. I think that probably means, they are trying to do the right thing, and not trying to be hurtful. Besides, you’ll probably get more of your FI’s family to attend that way too. That might have played into their decision too.
Post # 8
I don’t see it as a huge deal either, but I don’t totally get why showers are so important. Plus they are throwing you an additional shower…seems like enough to me! I think a 3 hour drive to go to a shower is a lot to expect. For a wedding, sure, a shower, probably not.
Post # 9
good to get opinions from both sides. i still feel somewhat disappointed and wish that our families could mesh a bit more, but at least my Future Mother-In-Law is coming and that makes me feel really good that she cares enough to make the trip 🙂