- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Hi Bees – Some of you were kind enough to offer me some advice a few weeks back: SO and I are six months out of the year from hell, working through job stress, parents’ illness, conflict in SO’s home country, traumatic bereavement AND infidelity (phew, seriously, I’m surprised we’re still here!). Everything is rosy and delightful: even the whole infidelity thing has led to us taking a (long, hard) road to a relationship that is more open and loving and healthy than ever (touch wood!)
Anyway, about a month ago, SO said that he had been thinking about proposing. We had been talking about a transcontinental move in a couple of years, so the future was very much in the picture, but I hadn’t thought about a proposal. I panicked slightly – I don’t want to disturb the stability of what we have at the moment and I’m really happy right now, but I don’t want to say no either.
Anyway, we had a long talk last week about concerns and hopes, and we’ve put a 12-18 month window on an engagement. I’m really glad we’re not rushing things, but it’s also nice to plan as a we rather than two Is! Plus now I get to look at sparkly (although he’s picking it) and think about what kind of wedding we’d like
Anyway I just wanted to thank all the lovely Bees who were lovely for being lovely, and giving me the confidence to articulate what I wanted.
(Does this even count as waiting?!)