(Closed) So Over It?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2765 posts
Sugar bee

Oh no, that doesn’t sound fun at all!

Is it possible to hire a wedding fairy (i.e. wedding planner)?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Can I tell you something that might help a bit? I’ve yet to meet a bride who hasn’t gotten to the same point that you’re at.

Wedding planning isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Especially when you’re broke and practical right?

I tried giving up 8 or 9 times but in the end I trudged on.

You deserve this day. You want this day. Don’t let your frustration bowl over your plans.

I think that you’d really regret it.

My wedding is 11-07 (SO SOON!!). I’m at the point now that I’ve done everything that I can to make it a fantastically memorable day. There’s a certain wall that I hit where I decided that it’s going to be great no matter what, who cares if a flower is out of place or the cake isn’t perfect? I’m getting married to my best friend. I doubt I’ll be looking too much at pomanders and flower arrangements.

Make it about you and him. Don’t worry about how it will look to others.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I can so relate to what you’re feeling right now. Honestly, it sounds like you’ve spent a fair amount of money so far, so it might be too costly to completely throw in the towel. But ponder this: downsize.

Cut everyone from your work..unless you are BFF with one of them. Limit it to the absolute most important people in your lives. 2nd – consider getting married at city hall. A lot of them have really beautiful architecture and make for gorgeous pictures. Have your ceremony, then enjoy a nice lunch or dinner at a restaurant, park, your home -wherever you don’t have to worry about costly wedding up-charges. Then, when it’s just the two of you, have a little slow dance. It will be more romantic than you think.

Good luck to you!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I can totally relate to how you feel.  About 40 days before the wedding I was SO OVER IT.  I wanted the throw in the towel, jump on a plane and just forget it all.  Why did I just HAVE TO have the big wedding?  I had a crappy wedding the first time, so I wanted to do it right this time.  In the end, yes, it’s all worth it.  However, if it’s too overwhelming and you’re not that far, can you change it so that you and your Mr and daughter hop on a plane somewhere and be happy with a ceremony like that?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I felt like this, I still kinda do, just try to focus on the dress which you said you are so excited to wear, and your FI, that’s it, the end. every other issue your response is to be whatever happens happens. don’t stress the details anymore. Trust me I learned this the hard way and when you learn it, suddenly pew bows are meaningless… haha… sorry that was my breaking point. Anyway, it will be beautiful and you’ve put in tons of work so far. Take a wedding free week. I know it sounds crazy being this close, but just try to do it, get a lot of sleep and stop yourself from doing anything wedding related, just spend quality time with your FI and your daughter, it’s sure to refresh your spirit and give you back some of the original bridal excitment.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Britshiningstar – that’s really great advice. I think I’m going to take that advice for myself. I see your wedding is about a week after mine. How you holding up?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@poli2b, I’m doing ok, I just keep thinking of stuff that needs to get done, or loose ends, or something pops up, I just really wanna be on the dance floor with my new hubby about to eat cake. This can all be over now, well the work part anyway. It really is key to take a break. This weekend will be busy for me however cause I am kind of out of time. It’s ok though, the experience is all about making memories so I hope everyone is making good ones!!! How are you holding up? your even closer than me! o I just can’t wait to see my FH in a tux he’s gonna look so handsome

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