Post # 1
I’ve been back and forth about this dress thing and I’m getting sick of it.
I found a dress that I fell in love with, but couldn’t afford (my budget is pretty much non-existant). I ran accross what I thought was a sample of the quincenera version of it on eBay, in my size, the other day and scored it for $81. It came in the mail today. It’s a knock-off. It has a corset back rather than a zipper back and it’s taffeta rather than satin. I haven’t gotten a chance to try it on yet. I based the size I ordered off the designer’s chart, so who knows if it’s going to fit or not, even with the corset back.
All the seller can tell me is that she’s sorry I don’t like it and that I shouldn’t have expected much for $81. She used a stock photo from DaVinci and nowhere in the ad did she specify that this was not the real deal. She says that she specified that it was a “stock gown” a stock gown “means it was made to resemble a designer gown at a much cheaper cost and is kept “in stock”. To me a stock gown is the same as a sample gown and $81 is more than fair for a sample DaVinci quincenera dress from a store that is going out of business.
Normally, this wouldn’t bother me, but this whole dress thing has me feeling….defeated. I was disappointed about having to get the trainless version of the dress. However, I was just starting to make plans to have a coat made for it with a train. Now I’m back to being disappointed. This was pretty much a third of my dress budget. I don’t know if I can get over it even if I do find a real version of the dress with a train and I haven’t found another dress I like nearly as much as this one.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club
The dress is really stressing me out too! I started out with a small budget (that I didn’t think was small) and I have ended up having to tripling it. ughh. I can’t seem to find a dress that I LOVE. I find ones that I like but haven’t found the one I love, yet. Places are pressuring me when I still have 13 months and it’s stressing me out like crazy. So you are not alone in the being over it part.
As for the dress you recieved, try it on. You may find out you love it. If you don’t, don’t give up and keep looking. You may be able to alter it to something you would like more. I am sure you will find one that you love that will make you feel like a bride!
Post # 4
@pinkcrush: I may end up loving it, but the point is that I feel like I paid for something I didn’t get. If I wanted a knock-off (and considered it), then I would have gotten one with the train, not the one that looks like a prom dress and needs a coat with a train to make it a wedding dress. Oh, and I’m not officially under 4 months to go….ugh.
Post # 5
@Sugaree: if you don’t like it on.
report the seller to e-bay she can’t sell you something that isn’t the real thing …
get your money back and keep looking.
Post # 6
Depending on where you ladies are, think about checking out a Brides Against Breast Cancer event (www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org), Church Street Bridal (in Virginia and Toronto), Adorned in Grace (Portland, OR) …
These places operate on a different model than regular bridal shops. The prices are better, and I think you’d have a much more positive experience.
Worth checking out, anyway.
Post # 7
@alishaloo: +1 about reporting the seller to ebay.
@Sugaree: File a claim with the card you used(or PayPal if you used that). When you file the claim, tell the rep that it was not the item as described, and when you contacted the seller for a refund for misrepresentation(aka bait and switch), they told you that you shouldn’t have had such high expectations for such a bargain. You should get your money back either way there.
Post # 8
@KCKnd2: Thanks for the info! I checked out BABC, but I live out in BFE (seriously, you find the middle of nowhere and then take three left turns) so there aren’t any events near me. Church Street Brides have some *beautiful* dresses at great prices, but I want a red dress, so that’s proved to be a difficult requirement to fulfill.
@GroovyKitten: Luckily, I used PayPal and my Visa debit card. This is precisely why I won’t link my bank account directly to PayPal. PP has been pushing hard for that lately.
Post # 9
I would try to return the dress. Is there any way you can do something to make a little extra spending money, like sell DVDs, crafts, yard sale or something to get more money for a dress?
Post # 10
@plzhalp: I’m researching my options on returning it. I refuse to pay return shipping on principle. I can try to make a little extra money, but my big issue now is that I’m not sure I want the same dress after all this mess, but I don’t know what else I’d want either and I’m running out of time.
Post # 11
Definitely get your money back and report the seller for not being clear. Also, take a deep breath and stop freaking out. Especially if you’re open to a “knock off,” sample, or gently used dress you still have time.
Maybe it’s worth a trip to a bigger city to check our consignment stores. And keep trolling ebay. I got my dream designer gown (that retailed for $4,300), gently used for $200. I’m sure you’ll find something you love.
Post # 12
Fight it on ebay and start over. Go to a reputable dressmaker and get the dress you originally wanted. Dressilyme, Fabulous U, Jasmines…they can get your dream dress in your budget.
Post # 13
So I requested a return shipping label from the seller. I’m not expecting her to comply with this, but I need to be able to show that I tried to work it out with the seller. So, what’s my next move? Would you start with eBay or Visa?
Post # 14
I’m not sure what style you’re looking for, but if you’re looking for red, this site has some great colored dresses for good prices. http://www.weddingdressfantasy.com/Default.asp. They have great reviews and can make something to your measurement. They can custom make anything. She even has youtube videos up describing some of her dresses. Inquired about a $13,000 I really should never have fallen in love with and they quoted about $1,200 to make it. I have a feeling they could do something for you in a much better range. Just don’t fall in love with dresses only the Kardashians can afford like I did ;).
Post # 15
@Amayansong: OOOOHHHHH…..I like those!!
Post # 16
What style, color, and size are you needing? We’re pretty resourceful around here 🙂