Post # 1
Our wedding is in April, so we’re about 7 months out. Problem is…. I am OVER. THIS. WEDDING.
I’ve squared away most of the major stuff, but now that its come down to details I don’t care to do any of them. I don’t want to think about them. I don’t want to look at wedding blogs. I don’t want to look at wedding magazines. Nothing.
I love my fiance… and can’t imagine NOT marrying him. Its just the wedding that’s eating me. I’m just to the max stressed out about our guest list… having to invite people I don’t like… To me this wedding doesn’t seem like “us”. It seems like a dog and pony show at this point.
Ugh. Anyone else? Or any ideas?
Post # 3
Take a break. If your major things are done, you don’t have to worry about anything for a while. Don’t read any wedding stuff, don’t do any planning, and just have fun being engaged for a while. THen in a couple month or so, you may well be able to think about wedding stuff again. I think a lot of brides hit this wall.
And if you still aren’t in to wedding planning, no biggie. You’ve got a venue and and a FI….you don’t really NEED a lot of the other details.
Seriously….back away from the weddingbee.
Post # 4
You need to take a break from the wedding stuff. You’ve got 7 months left, take a week or two off and don’t do anything wedding related–you’re not going to get super behind on anything at this point.
I understand your stress on the guest list–that has happened to most of us. My guess is that your parents are adding people to the list if you don’t like these people. See what you can do to cut these people off of the list. What worked for us was telling our parents that we really just wanted to celebrate with the people that mattered the most to us and we didn’t want people there that we wouldn’t recognize in a grocery store. That helped us get a handful of people off of the list.
When making wedding decisions I always think “is this us?” and if its not, we don’t do it. End of story. It’s our wedding, and even though its a little larger than we had hoped for, everything IN the wedding is going to be US. It’s caused a little conflict with our family, but you know what? I don’t care. It’s our wedding and there aren’t going to be things that don’t represent us in it.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
Agreed…you need a break! Try to have a “Wedding free weekend” during which you and FI don’t talk about the wedding, look at wedding magazines, watch wedding shows, etc. I did this with my FI periodically during our engagement and it was amazing how much less stressed I felt when I wasn’t constantly in “wedding mode”. And also, try not to engulf yourself with wedding inspiration. Sites like stylemepretty and project wedding, etc can be helpful but they can also be really overwhelming!
Post # 6
Agreed!! Take a few weeks or month off from wedding planning. make sure what you’ve planned is “you”. Don’t just go through with it because you’re suppose to. You don’t have to read wedding blogs if you dont’ want and you can have the wedding anyway that represents YOU. Do what makes you happy! Then start planning later fresh. What about enlisting help – MOH, mother, friends, FI?
Post # 7
My main guest issue is his sister…. Not much we can do about it. She and FI got into an argument over something petty, and she has told everyone that she’s going to be the “martyr” of our wedding… show up drunk, make a scene, etc. Since I have seen her throw a chair across an Olive Garden, you can go ahead and consider me terrified.
I guess one crazy out of a guest list of 150 isn’t so bad… but really. Why does it have to be his sister?
And confession…. I haven’t done anything wedding related since late July. I HAVE taken a break, but now I’m feeling kinda guilty and feel like I need to get back at it, and I’m finding I don’t really care. The situation with his sister doesn’t help at all… 🙁