Post # 1
I’m so overwhlemed by planning such a large wedding (to me, this is large). We are on a $12,000 budget and have about 110 guests total. I’m doing really well with my budget and happy with the bigger details. It’s all the little stuff:
How to decorate the church, the centerpieces, what kind of bouquet to use (debating sola flowers, or a carnation bouquet). Becaue I’m on a budget, I want to DIY as much as I can. But I know I’m going to take on more than I can, because I always do that (I work part time, go to school full time, and my FI and I have a 1 year old daughter, plus planning this wedding on my own).
I think I’m a little frustrated with my FI because he has no opinion on what he likes, no suggestions, but shoots down a lot of my suggestions. He’s paying for a majority of the wedding, because he wants the big wedding. I wanted to go to Key West and elope.
Right now I’m trying to figure out favors. We are doing Starbucks cups (the reusable $1 ones), and doing a coffee themed wedding. Since not everyone we know likes coffee, I was going to package hot chocolate in brown paper bags wrapped with twine. But he doesn’t want rustic… so how do I do a coffee themed wedding without using rustic elements like burlap? C’MON, FI! Cut me some slack!
And now he’s dissapointed because I’m scratching the cookie bar. We can’t do both the cookie bar, and the hot chocolate and cups. How much do we want to give as favors, really?
Really just needed to vent. I hate weddings.
Post # 2
Daenaria727: I FEEL YOU.
We were so happy and thought, “this is a breeze!” months ago when we got our church, venue, photographer, caterer, DJ. dress. Now it’s all detail shit. I hate all of it. And I’m on a budget as well so I can’t just pay someone to do it all for me.
Post # 3
If you’re doing a budget wedding you don’t need to have favours. A poll on here the other day showed that most bees don’t even take them home anyway.
Tell your FI that if he wants the huge wedding, he should take on the stress of the details!!
Post # 4
I think the favors are what tie in to our coffee theme the most, so I don’t want to cut them. This is what I was planning on doing, just to keep it simple. We are doing hot chocolate instead of coffee since most people have personal coffee makers instead of the traditional ones, and not everyone likes coffee:
I just don’t know if I want them on the table when everyone gets there, or if we should have a big table set up with the favors. we are also doing a coffee bar, but that is taken care of by the caterer (thank GOD).
Post # 5
Daenaria727: None of the things you are stressing about are required elements of a wedding. If having a “theme” and coordinating decorations and favors fills you with joy, then go for it! But why bother if it’s stressing you out?
Your wedding needs neither a theme nor favors.
Post # 6
Daenaria727: if you dothose reusable cups you know how they sharpie names on (if your artistic) decorare the cups …. dont make it about being a coffee cup make it out it being thoughtful and personal go google it if your not artistic inlist a friend who is and find ideas you like (put the peoples names on it snd either do art thats themed or something with things the person likes) …. the time spent and will blow people away i would want one show your partner some of the photos when u goodle starbucks cup art i bet you change his mind 😀
Post # 7
Daenaria727: wedding planning is not all it’s cracked up to be!
Post # 8
Daenaria727: BurlapnLace: Yes. Much wedding hatred. Three weeks (or something like that) left and I am ready to elope. Or just go sign the papers, pray together, and be married. Why on earth did I ever think a big family wedding with guests flying in from out of town would be a FUN thing to do over my summer?? I blame pinterest. :p
Post # 9
Daenaria727: Bah! DH did this to me so many times! I’d have a great idea, and he’d nix it but not come up with an alternative. I finally said that he’s only allowed to shoot down an idea if he has a new one to replace it with. After that he was a lot more selective about what he shot down and our planning conversations were a lot more constructive instead of frustrating. Lots of the things he shot down were just “too overdone” or “not unique”… we’re not terribly unique people so I dont know why all of a sudden he cared about that haha.
Post # 10
If he is anti-twine, use ribbon and paper in your wedding colors. You could use white paper and green ribbon to match the starbucks cup or just use the wedding colors you already have.