Post # 1
I should not say bugging…..because everyone is being so gracious but they seem kind of peeved off. See original post here:
Basically – before the shower invites were even sent out – someone bought out our entire honeymoon registry. AWESOME! But…..now that the shower invites are out I’ve had 3 people ask me if I could add more to it because they really want to gift us something from the honeymoon reg.
I was told it’s rude to add more to the registry because the person/people who bought it out are probably proud that they could “give us” an entire honeymoon. But in just 2 days I’ve had 3 different emails with the same request.
What would you do?
Post # 3
I would just be honest and say that everything you and your husband to be could think of to include on the honeyfund has been purchased by someone who surprised you by purchasing your honeymoon for you! So just say that there isn’t really anything else you can possibily think of that you would need for the honeymoon. Acknowledge that they are being thoughtful though!
This is such a tricky situation, but I don’t think you should add to it. If I purchased someone their whole honeymoon I would be really sad if they went and asked for more, even if people were asking them to.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Tell people what you’ve been telling them, but you could also suggest that they come up with their own honeymoon treat idea? That seems like a more polite way of being like “Give me money, duh.”
Post # 5
Yea – it’s kind of awkward because all 3 people have sort of left the emails open-ended as if to say “well the registry i want to give from is sold out….so now what?” and it’s obivous there are 2 others to choose from (BB&B and another store) but they don’t seem too keen on those registries even though there is a solid range of prices to choose from.
Post # 6
@skippydarling: If they don’t like the registry options, then they can give a gift as they see fit and if they choose–either cash, or another honeymoon idea, or something completely different or unrelated. But whoever bought out your honeymoon registry did something so generous, I would feel funny adding more to that registry now. It might come off as ungrateful or greedy.
Let the other people choose how to gift you on their own. It seems strange to me that they would even bring this up with you.
Post # 7
Well, yeah, adding more stuff to a honeymoon registry is rude because honeymoon registries are rude…
Also, how can you possibly have a shower with just a honeymoon registry? Showers are for physical gifts, not cash, which is what honeymoon registries are really – cash registries, with fees to the site for hosting.
Post # 9
@grumbledore: Someone’s a crabby bunny.
And uh….if you stopped to actually read what I wrote you would see I mentioned I have two other places I’m registered at.
And if honeymoon registries are so rude (they aren’t) then how come that seems to be the ONLY registry that people are asking about/buying from? Interesting.
Post # 10
@bellaluna290: and same goes for you
Post # 11
I think whoever bought your entire honeymoon registry will probably see it as a point of pride… So I would probably direct them back to the other two registries!
Post # 12
I don’t understand people. If they really want to contribute to your honeymoon at this point, why wouldn’t they just give you cash? I mean, that’s what a honeymoon registry is anyway, registering for cash. At least this way, they can be sure that a third party won’t be taking a cut of their gift to you.
Post # 13
@skippydarling: Thanks for the lovely reply.
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People are probably asking about the HM registry because they want to give you cash, and think that they can do so by “giving” you an excursion or whatever you registered for.It also takes a lot less effort to click a few buttons a website to give you cash, versus picking out a gift.
And HM registries are usually considered not so good because they are in essence directly asking for cash, which is not a good look.
Post # 14
@grumbledore: Look who it is…..back on another Honeymoon Registry thread to spread negativity and tell people that they’re rude for having one as if your opinion is an absolute. Seriously – you do this in all of your posts. You don’t read the OP properly and then you go on to insult them for their choices. Get a life.
Post # 15
@bellaluna290: If one can directly ask for someone to buy them dishes then one can ask for someone to pay for their day of golfing at the resort they’re staying at. But that’s really here nor their because for our honeymoon fund we are not directly asking for cash as we’ll be 100% using the money to actually do the things people gifted us, complete with pictures of us doing it and sending them the thank yous for it. So really…it’s not as black & white as you’ve made it out to be.
Like I said – it’s not an absolute and, in this thread, it’s not up for debate if having one is rude or not. There are plenty of other threads for that.
Also – not exactly friendly to mention where I should be working if I want to get showered with cash…..which line of work would you be referring to? If you’re going to say it then just say it. But that might get you flagged…
Post # 16
@skippydarling: But you aren’t *directly* asking for things with a registry. Unless you (general) are telling people where they can go to get you a gift or printing registry info on a wedding invitation.
I already replied about if you should add more money to the HM registry with a resounding no. It does seem greedy to do so. TBH, you should prefer that people bring you cash anyways since you will be getting the full amount over the cut that the HM registry company takes.