So people are now bugging me about Honeymoon Registry

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@skippydarling:  

I would just be honest and say that everything you and your husband to be could think of to include on the honeyfund has been purchased by someone who surprised you by purchasing your honeymoon for you! So just say that there isn’t really anything else you can possibily think of that you would need for the honeymoon. Acknowledge that they are being thoughtful though!

This is such a tricky situation, but I don’t think you should add to it. If I purchased someone their whole honeymoon I would be really sad if they went and asked for more, even if people were asking them to. 

 

 

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Tell people what you’ve been telling them, but you could also suggest that they come up with their own honeymoon treat idea? That seems like a more polite way of being like “Give me money, duh.”

Post # 6
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402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@skippydarling:  If they don’t like the registry options, then they can give a gift as they see fit and if they choose–either cash, or another honeymoon idea, or something completely different or unrelated.  But whoever bought out your honeymoon registry did something so generous, I would feel funny adding more to that registry now.  It might come off as ungrateful or greedy.

Let the other people choose how to gift you on their own.  It seems strange to me that they would even bring this up with you.

Post # 7
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Newbee

Well, yeah, adding more stuff to a honeymoon registry is rude because honeymoon registries are rude

Also, how can you possibly have a shower with just a honeymoon registry?  Showers are for physical gifts, not cash, which is what honeymoon registries are really – cash registries, with fees to the site for hosting.

 

Post # 11
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think whoever bought your entire honeymoon registry will probably see it as a point of pride… So I would probably direct them back to the other two registries!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t understand people. If they really want to contribute to your honeymoon at this point, why wouldn’t they just give you cash? I mean, that’s what a honeymoon registry is anyway, registering for cash. At least this way, they can be sure that a third party won’t be taking a cut of their gift to you.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@skippydarling:  Thanks for the lovely reply.

 

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People are probably asking about the HM registry because they want to give you cash, and think that they can do so by “giving” you an excursion or whatever you registered for.It also takes a lot less effort to click a few buttons a website to give you cash, versus picking out a gift.

 

And HM registries are usually considered not so good because they are in essence directly asking for cash, which is not a good look.

 

Post # 14
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650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@grumbledore:  Look who it is…..back on another Honeymoon Registry thread to spread negativity and tell people that they’re rude for having one as if your opinion is an absolute.  Seriously – you do this in all of your posts.  You don’t read the OP properly and then you go on to insult them for their choices.  Get a life.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@skippydarling:  But you aren’t *directly* asking for things with a registry. Unless you (general) are telling people where they can go to get you a gift or printing registry info on a wedding invitation.
I already replied about if you should add more money to the HM registry with a resounding no. It does seem greedy to do so. TBH, you should prefer that people bring you cash anyways since you will be getting the full amount over the cut that the HM registry company takes.

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