Post # 1
I’m most likely overreacting, and I’m most likely visitng Crazytown right now, but I can’t let this go. GRRRRRRR!
Last night, SO and I were walking back from a basketball game to our car. We were walking on a crazy busy road and cars were flying by, so I pulled him over and made him switch sides with me. He gives me a look and goes “Uh, why’d you do that?” and I said “Uh, because it’s the gentlemanly thing for you to walk on the outside.” and he just smirks and goes, “I never claimed to be a gentleman. Sorry.” Now, let me tell you ..SO is normally very sweet and caring. He is the furthest thing from a jerk. So this comment caught me off guard and he could tell I was pissed. So he went on to say he was just kidding and to forget about what he said.
BUT FOR SOME REASON, I’M STILL ANGRY ABOUT IT TODAY. Do you ever have those little things you just can’t let go?
It doesn’t help that work is super stressful right now, I have a big presentation to give in class tonight, and I’m starting my period soon. It also doesn’t help that I didn’t hear from SO this morning like I normally do.
Post # 3
Yeah, you definitely took a wrong turn after the game into Crazytown. Also, what sort of message is that to send to your spouse? If a car goes careening off the road, I hope you die instead of me?
Let it go.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
YES, I definitely have those moments. Usually when I’m stressed and DH says it meaning to be joking but I turn around and give him bitch face.
I feel like a jerk after the anger goes away for getting mad at him because I know that’s just how he is and I shouldn’t get mad but on the other hand I think he should see when I’m stressed and not joke around!!
Blame your anger on the fear of the traffic and your SO not recognizing that. Like you said, it was out of character for him.
Post # 6
I think you are overreacting, and also…you should have both just moved over as much as possible. That seems really dangerous and it doesn’t make sense that you’d want him in danger rather than you. The whole gentlemen walk on the outside thing is from when the majority of traffic was horses and carriages, and the man would be splashed with mud/dirt rather than the woman. It’s not gentlemanly to put yourself in danger. It’s stupid.
Post # 7
I have moments where I go into Crazytown too. The last trip involved how SO squeezed the tube of toothpaste. Time to let it go and move forward.
Post # 8
So my husband tends to walk on the side closer to traffic because for some reason he thinks he’s less prone to randomly falling in front of a car than I am. Maybe not entirely logical, but it’s sweet. So I understand where you’re coming from.
But you’re right — there are a lot of things stressing you out right now. And when you’re stressed, you feel vulernable, and you want your SO to be the one supporting you and protecting you. I’m thinking this is all a bit of a metaphor for that. And also, that it will pass with some time once you’ve had a chance to unwind. 🙂 Hang in there!
Post # 9
@hyperJulie: No, not at all. I just like to feel protected and I think it’s sweet when guys do this for their significant others. But I do know I’m highly overreacting. That’s why I came here ..to read rational responses from you girls.
I normally let everything go. Not sure why this one thing is getting to me so badly.
Post # 10
@peachacid: Whoa whoa whoa ..we were walking on the ONLY sidewalk available to get to our car. Unfortunately it’s on a very busy, dark street and college kids fly through there like idiots.
But that really isn’t the point of this post.
Post # 11
@Gemstone: Thanks, this is exactly what I needed to read! Definitely being irrational and having a moment of weakness.
Post # 12
I mean, I guess it’s sweet but stuff like this just kinda boggles me because as PP said – it’s like saying, your life is worth less than mine because I have a vagina. Kinda weird. Idk. My SO likes to try and do stuff like that and it just makes me annoyed haha. I’ll walk where I wanna walk!
Post # 13
@pokie45: I’m just saying that if you’re in a dangerous situation, putting your loved one in danger instead of yourself is stupid. Instead, you both could have moved over, or you could have walked single file. Maybe thinking this way will help you out in the future.
Also, it’s not that big of a deal.
Post # 14
I am currently mayor of Crazy Town. We’re trying to deal with insurance companies all the while figuring out how to navigate a weird career limbo and both myself and SS are sick so I was not in a great mood this morning. SO said something like I had the toaster set a little high this morning and I swear to god, I wanted to set him on fire. Then I started to cry. Take a step back and try to see that it’s just the circumstances that have lined up just so that if it wasn’t his comment that got to you, it would have been someone else’. It doesn’t matter what my SO said to me this morning since I was in such a mood that I would have been irritated with him for breathing too loudly. It was out of character, you’re stressed out and your body’s gearing up for the most wonderful time of the month. Get yourself a bottle of wine, curl up with your SO and let it go 🙂
Post # 15
Take deep breaths babe, you are obviously stressed out about other things atm, and you let the crazy out at your poor oblivious manfriend, I do it all the time, SO just laughs at me and calls me crazy.
Maybe just give him a kiss and say sorry for the OTT reaction.
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Eh, everyone visits Crazytown once in a while, lol. FI is the same way (always walks on the outside of the sidewalk, opens my car door, carries my stuff, even when I tell him I am perfectly capable, etc.). It sounds like you ARE stressed. I would just try to do something today to help calm you down, maybe get a workout in before your presentation?