Post # 1
Our RSVP deadline was yesterday so today Fiance and I started calling the friends and family that hadn’t replied yet. On the list to call was my FIs grandma and her best friend. We figured they just assumed we knew they were coming because his grandma was SO excited about the wedding the last time we saw her it’s all she could talk about!
Soo my Fiance called his dad to confirm they were coming and to see if they would be traveling to the wedding with him. His dad tells him she and her friend would not be able to attend. Apparently she had gone to the chiropractor and as he was doing some simple adjustments for her he broke her arm! The Dr. knew there was no way she should be so brittle (she’s only in her 60’s!) so he sent her to get full body scans and they found out she has lung cancer that is inoperable and is spreading quickly through her whole body, including her brain. They don’t think she will have much longer.
I’m so sad and I don’t know what to do 🙁
I feel so guilty and selfish that our wedding is next month. What if she doesn’t make it until next month?!
Post # 3
aww bella, I am soo sorry to hear!!!!! Sending hugs your way!
Hope she will be okay!
Post # 4
Just play it by ear. My grandma made it through 3 or 4 brain cancer surgeries over the last several years and only died today after them saying Thursday that they’d start radiation on Friday and finding out Friday that it was too far advanced. If she’s alive and having a good day I’m sure she’ll try to make it. She might even push it if she’s not having a good day too.
Post # 5
Oh no I’m so sorry to hear this! **hugs**… I hope you and your family find strength in these difficult times.
Post # 6
I am so sorry Bella.
If she can’t come, would it be possible to hook up a web cam, so she can see and hear the ceremony. You could have the officiant/pastor awknowledge her prior to the ceremony.
Post # 7
I’m sorry to hear that. It is hard to think of having fun with someone so special not present, maybe you can try and do something so she feels apart of it. Maybe you can find away to have your ceremony aired view the internet so she can watch.
Post # 8
I’m sorry about your loss Toffee 🙁
I’ve never lost anyone dear to me and I just feel so guilty planning such a happy celebration during such a difficult time for our family.
Post # 9
Don’t feel guilty, I saw my grandma on Thursday and everyone kept saying that she had stayed up all day just waiting for Fiance and I to show up. And she was so excited that we had picked our date and that she was one of the first ones to hear about it even though she knew she wouldn’t be able to make it.
Post # 10
Yeah, I like the webcam idea. That would be nice. We’re techically not supposed to know whats going on with her. She didn’t want to tell anyone just yet. So, as soon as she feels comfortable telling everyone what’s going on we’re going to go visit her.
Post # 11
Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this. My best wishes and prayers go out to you.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry you are going through this! Hopefully since you wedding is so close (less than a month, woo hoo!) she’ll be able to attend. If not, I think the webcam idea is wonderful!
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Oh no, that is devastating. 🙁 Sending positive thoughts your way!
Post # 14
im so sorry, this can be so hard! my grandmother died the week of my cousins wedding, the funeral was the day before! I cant imagine, i wish you the best
Post # 16
Oh Bella, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this during such a special time in your life! I understand you feeling like it is guilty to plan a celebration during a time like this, but on the other hand I know if it was my family it would be a way to enjoy the moments you have together and take the stress away from the situation. When my grandma was sick with cancer, all she wanted was for people to enjoy her last days- and it really hurt her more to see us all struggling. I love the idea of a web cam as well! Make sure to communicate about everyone’s wants and needs, but with only a month away it seems like there isn’t anything you can do besides find a way to honor her in the celebration and try to include her in it as well.
Let us know how things go, keep your head up, and rely on the support and love of those around you!