(Closed) So Sad! Consultant didn't listen–fell in love with an over-budget dress :(

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What do I do?
    Take on a third job (on top of school, one full time job, and one part time) : (16 votes)
    5 %
    Deal with it and buy a cheaper dress you don't love--it's just one day : (107 votes)
    33 %
    Find a totally different style dress! : (165 votes)
    52 %
    Take out a loan, buy the dress, and wear it every time I make a payment to justify the cost. ;) : (32 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m very sorry, and I can see on your face how much you loved it. Would it make you feel any less sad if I told you I think you could do better for less money? It does swallow you up a little, and I’m not trying to be an asshole, but I think your ideal dress is still out there somewhere. 

    Post # 4
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Alexandria_Lyn:  That sucks, but you should try to put things into perspective. You’ll be wearing this dress for a few hours. Figure out how to make another $600 and see if it’s really worth it to splurge on this dress. The consultant really shouldn’t have showed you this – I guess she was hoping you’d fall in love and go over budget like some brides do. We’ll always want things we can’t afford, unfortunately. I guess you just need to try and forget about it because it sounds like it may as well be $6,000 over your budget 🙁

    Post # 5
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Taeyers:  I agree, my first thought was actually “the bottom looks like toilet paper”… OP, I think you can find a nicer dress within your budget!

    Post # 6
    90 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

     I feel like if you could take out a loan go for it!  It might be tough now and while you are making the payments but you will look back at all your pictures and be happy.  We went over budget on the honeymoon but I think it will be worth the struggle.  Money comes and goes!  The memories will last a lifetime!

    Post # 7
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wow that is tough.. You look soooooo happy in it. Based on that alone I would say the extra $600 is absolutely worth it, but I don’t know your financial situation. Could you give up coffees or alcohol for a while to treat yourself to it? Otherwise, try to remember that there are a million other gorgeous dresses out there JUST as beautiful. You can find great ones at any budget, seriously.

    Post # 8
    1980 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Alexandria_Lyn:  That dress is insanely beautiful. I am working a second job (70+ hours a week to pay extra for my wedding, including my splurgey $4K Reem Acra dress). IMO, It has been worth every penny.

    Post # 9
    1448 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Alexandria_Lyn:  You need another option: Find a different dress that you love.


    Post # 10
    4687 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I’m mad at that consultant. That’s bullshit that they did that to you.

    I KNOW you will find another dress thats cheaper ad that you love!

    Post # 11
    6745 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    You should have 2 more options – find another dress or get a replica.  Have you looked into Jasmine’s Bridal?

    Post # 12
    2824 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Another option would be to get the same dress, pre-owned. Do you know the designer and the style?

    Post # 13
    3369 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    That is stunning! Did you ask if you could buy the sample? That’s what I did with my Paloma Blanca and I wound up paying $1152 for a $3k dress. If not, I would say try and find some wiggle room. That dress is absolutely stunning!!!!

    Post # 14
    894 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Have you tried preownedweddingdresses.com ?

    Post # 15
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Have you thought about having it made by Jasmine’s?

    If I had paid for my own dress that probably would have been my choice. It’s wrong that they did that to you!

    Honestly, taking out a loan for a dress is a bit silly IMO. It is a dress, and while lovely, you’ll only wear it for a few hours. It’s not worth going into debt for! If you can’t do Jasmines and you really love it that much, I would takeanother part time job until you get the extra $600.

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