- 1 year ago
Long story short. I ended up asking my brothers FI to be in my wedding. To put it mildly shes really rough around the edges.
1. planning my bridal shower she told my friends that she doesnt care that shes not spending more than 150.00 because she has her own wedding to plan for. That she doesnt care if she has to put a lunchmeat platter on a table at a hall thats all I’m getting, and that I’m highclass.
2. My maid texted everyone to set everything up. My brothers FI, told them not to text her that she does not want anyone to have her number and dont text back.
3. While trying to reserve the venue for the bridal shower. She told my maid that she wants a recipt or they are not getting her money. That she does not know them from adam or eve, and if they dont like it, too bad.
UGHH so much tension. Part of me was trying to be cordial for my brothers sake. But I can’t allow her to treat my friends like this. I would NEVER let them treat her like that either. I asked her to step out. I feel TERRIBLE, she bought the dress, which I offered to pay for so she wouldnt have wasted money. Part of me was scared my brother would be furious with me, and not come. But he said he completely understood, that she is rude, and he talks to her about it all of the time. I still feel bad.
This girl had a hard life. She grew up in foster care, her mother just died, she doesnt have much family. I think she feels insecure because the other bridesmaids went to college (and I – first person in my family to go to college, and thats why she thinks i’m highclass). She didnt graduate HS and I wonder if thats why she hates them.
She also asked me several months ago if i liked a dress, I told her I didnt really like it and she told me, well at least I have the body for it. She told me last night that shes number one in my brothers life, and one day she’ll be his wife, and then he wont speak to us anymore. I told her no matter what, he can’t divorce me.
WHY do I still feel bad, even after she has BEEN so horrible (theres more but I think I made this too long as is). I feel bad for her, I feel bad for my brother.