Post # 1
Everyone kept telling me to enjoy the process and I tried, but working full time and planning a wedding in 7 months wasn’t easy. What I didn’t relaize is how much I was having planning my wedding. FI and I had a blast. Everyone was having such a great time. Someone just posted a video of us dancing. I didn’t even remember I was at the start of the Conga line. LOL!!! How could I have forgotten that?????
I shouldn’t be sad, but I am. I wish I were still planning. I loved my wedding soooo much. Yesterday on my way home from work I started crying. I can’t stop looking at wedding blogs and my magazines. I think I need to get rid of all wedding related stuff. Just hand them all out to brides who need them. Am I crazy?
Post # 3
My sister just got married and is going through the same thing. You’re not crazy. It’s an emotional time in your life and now it’s over. But look what you got out of it. A great hubby!! Right? I hope he’s great. Good luck. I’ll take those wedding magazines off your hands.
Post # 4
“Don’t be sad that it’s over, be happy that it happened!” :o)
After any really huge milestone event, there is going to be some let down of emotions. At least you realized how much fun wedding planning ended up being and that you totally enjoyed the big day. You really can’t ask for more than that. I love love love my wedding, too. For me, I put a lot of energy afterwards into working with the photog on our wedding album and putting together scrapbooks of the day for my BMs. I also gave away most of my wedding magazine collection (I had to keep the Grace Ormondes and Bride and Blooms to myself!)
Post # 5
I was just talking to a friend of mine about this yesterday. She said its not just that you arent planning a wedding anymore its also that the attention is no longer on you. I hope that doesnt come off in the wrong way! She was just saying that while you are engaged and planning everyone keeps fussing over you, wanting to see your ring, wanting to get a sneak peak of your dress, wanting to know details about your upcoming wedding and then once its over everyone moves on and you are still thinking about it. That makes sense and Im sure it is just a passing phase! My dad always says to me “This too shall pass” and whenever something is hard or upsetting I always repeat this phrase to myself! I think it must be hard because its no longer something to look forward to but its an amazing memory that you have and its something to always reminisce about! I would suggest starting a journal if you havent already to write all your memories down in. And your feelings too. And it will probably help you get past this and be able to just look fondly upon your wedding day!
Post # 6
I am so addicted to WB!
One thing that has helped me is I offered to be a DOC at my friends wedding coming up in March. She is keeping me in the loop on her wedding planning and so whenever I see stuff I send it her way.
Also, we have tackled a lot of other projects which is nice. We are getting back into cooking too.
Post # 7
I would definitely try to focus on a non-wedding project. For me, I know as soon as the wedding over I want to turn my focus to our house. We moved in this past January and did some basic painting and hung a few things… but there is a LOT to do. I think i’ll just get really into home projects and decorating.
Post # 8
I agree with @CorgiTales: I think putting your time and energy into a non-wedding related project will help you get over the slump.
Throw a birthday party for a friend
Do some home improvements or apartment decorating
volunteer (Seriously this option is great because it helps you and helps someone else too)
start a new sport or hobby
take little weekend trips with your new hubby!!!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House
I know I’ll be bummed when mine is over too! But I have friends getting married next year and they are already asking me for help- there’s so much info in my head at any one time I can go on for hours with suggestions and ideas. So I hope to use my wedding energy helping them if they’ll have me 🙂
It will pass, I promise. But I think the post-wedding-blues are common. You are not crazy 🙂
Post # 10
I was completely depressed after mine! We’d had a year and a half engagement, and when you spend so much time and effort planning and anticipating single event, it’s hard to adjust once it’s over.
The things that helped me were:
- taking a more active role in my community chorus and professional organizations
- talking with other newlywed friends about their weddings and sharing guests’ pictures (since we didn’t have the pro ones in yet)
- scrapbooking the days leading up to the wedding and the honeymoon
- planning how my husband and I were going to decorate our new apartment, divide up chores, combine bank accounts, etc.
It’s been almost two months since our wedding, and I”m just now starting to feel like I’m okay with it being over.
Post # 11
my friend felt the same way, and i’m sure i will too. it’s hard to separate from an experience after you put so much into it and there is so much anticipation.
you might like reading the book ‘the conscious bride.’ my group of friends found it immensely helpful, so i have been reading it too. it covers all stages of emotion in the wedding process, including this part.
Post # 12
I’m definitely missing the planning process! One of my best friends just asked me to be a bridesmaid though, so I’m still hearing wedding related things and that helps 🙂 I’ve still been looking at wedding blogs all the time though. I finally decided to start my own etsy for wedding related things too since I did a lot of the things on my own and loved it. Guess I’m not ready to let go of the wedding process just yet 🙂
Post # 13
I am the exact same way… I feel sad that it is over 🙁 I LOVED PLANNING IT! 🙂