So scared…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Best thig is to to remind yourself not to worry so much about things which you have no control. Also don’t expect to see too much at 6-7 weeks. I do know how you feel though I was terribly worried my pregnancy wouldn’t work out. I wasn’t bleeding or anything but I felt crampy and the whole thing just didn’t seem real. and no doctor or midwife would see me until 10 weeks and I wasn’t allowed to have an ultrasound until 12 Or 13 weeks. But it all worked out! The scary feelings subsided as the pregnancy progressed. I’m 25 weeks now with two healthy boys. helped me not to talk about the pregnancy too much, continue on with my life and stay busy…turn to my husband when I was afraid, NOT do research On the internet and to listen to my providers. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@palmtree23:  I was completely convinced I was having a MC from the minute I found out I was pregnant until 24 weeks. I was constantly convinced something was HORRIBLY wrong. And I had NO risk factors for MC, and no reason to be scared!

It’s totally normal–Baby is fine! It’s totally natural to worry.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think this is a very normal feeling when you’re that early in the pregnancy.

and frankly it never fully goes away, you’re a parent for the moment it happens and you’re worried sick about your child.

If it gives you a piece of mind, buy one of those fetal heart beat monitors. I bought one on eBay, it was like 20 bucks.

on the days I didn’t feel the baby moving or I was paranoid, I would check for the heart beat and sure enough it self assured me.

 

good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

O I hear you…I’m really happy for you that you have your ultrasound so early. I didn’t get mine until 8 weeks and I was terrified every moment until I saw the baby and the heartbeat, and the doctor assured me everything was okay. 

The thing is…I’m sure you’ve read horror stories and statistics regarding miscarriage, but the odds are absolutely in your favor. They are. And if you haven’t had any cramping accompanied by bleeding, the odds are even MORE in your favor. 

For what it’s worth, I felt so much better after my 8 week ultrasound, but the worry never goes away, it just changes to worrying about something else related to baby. Get used to feeling out of control about this, and just control the things you can – eating well (as you can with nausea), sleeping a lot, exercising if you can, taking prenatals, etc. 

Please do update us with news on how the u/s went. And we love ultrasound pics :). Good luck!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@palmtree23:  I was scared too as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I think a big thing I needed to get my head around was the fact I have this little life in me, and it is really just going to do its own thing and I do have little control over what it decides to do and when.  Maybe take a break from the internet if you are reading too many horror stories on there. I think the best thing you can do is relax and take care of you – go get a facial or do something that allows you to be nice to yourself. Trust that this will all work out in the best way possible. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@palmtree23:  I’ve also had pretty few symptoms, except for sore boobs and exhaustion. I can definitely relate to your worry but I think you’ll feel better after your ultrasound. Once I saw a heartbeat, it made me feel a lot better to know that there really is a baby growing in there. My mom also had really easy pregnancies so maybe there’s something to your theory. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Although I didn’t have a happy outcome, I learned a huge lesson after having a miscarriage at the end of an anxiety and panic filled pregnancy: worrying can’t prevent a miscarriage, but it can steal from you the experience of having a happy pregnancy. I worried like it was my job, and in the end, I found myself just wishing that I could have stayed in the moment and just enjoyed being pregnant. 

Logically, the odds are in your favor and symptoms come and go all the time in healthy pregnancies. That’s the problem with symptoms – often, they don’t really mean much of anything. One woman will have a healthy baby with no MS and boobs that hurts every now and then, and another will have a miscarriage with every symptom in the book 24/7. You really can’t use those to predict your outcome. 

Try to let go of the worry and stay in the moment. Good luck at tomorrow’s ultrasound! 🙂

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We saw the heartbeat at our 6 wk ultrasound! 🙂 we also saw the embryo and the sack and I was anxiours like you.  Your body is changing rapidly and you will eventually calm down. I have bad anxiety and it’s lessened a lot as I get used to pregnancy and accept change!  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ohhh yes, quite normal. I have seen the heartbeat and I’m still nervous. The advice I try to follow (although it’s hard)- is to appreciate every day I am pregnant and not to get ahead of myself.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@palmtree23:  Thinking many good thoughts for you! Hope your appointment goes well!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@palmtree23:  well you heard wrong that’s not true. Don’t google.  I haven’t had nausea in two days and I’m fine ! I’m only 8 1/2 weeks. I had no symptoms the days before my US besides the pains and it was fine too !

right now you ARE pregnant.  So cherish it ! 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@palmtree23:  Keep us posted!  I’d like to say the feeling will go away, but I’m still waiting.  We saw a strong heartbeat at 8 weeks and I’m still anxious for my 12 week appointment!  

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