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Well, at least you know now, ahead of time, right? While I would be completely bummed too (as a BM of mine had to back out due to financial reasons), you do need to move on and let it go. You even stated that above.
It sounds like your aunt might have some life soul searching to do and it's better she did it now, then had accepted and a few months prior told you.
Keep your chin up.
I didn't get that feeling at all, she seems very happy for you and declined because she doesn't feel she'll be able to be there for you like she'd want to. And you're right, try and be positive and move on. Be happy she didn't accept and then not be there for you how you would expect. :)
Hey, I totally agree with speulie. She sounds like she wants everything to go well with the wedding, and that she is happy for you. You could still include her with a reading or such. She cares enough to not sign up for a responsibility she may not be able to fully see through.
She seems like she is happy for you, it probably took her awhile to write that message to try to get the right wording which might be why you think she sounds distant/off.
Be happy that she respects you enough that she doesn't want her own soul searching to effect your wedding negatively.
To me it seemed like a very genuine email that was honest and putting her concern for you before herself. This will be for the best!
I think she sounds very happy for you and is just being honest that she can't make the commitment. One of my friends couldn't be a bridesmaid for this exact reason, and it turns out she is starting a new job and has to be at work all week before the wedding and the day after (she lives too far away just to come for the day).
I know you are sad but think of how sad you would be if a month before the wedding she told you she couldnt be a BM anymore. Its best to have known now and not later. I think you are on the right track think positive and enjoy the stuff to come!
thank you guys and you are right good thing she didn't bum out at the last minute because that would have pissed me off and I would most likely cut her off for a long time. By the sound of it it doesn't even seem as if she will attend the wedding at all, who knows my wedding is now going to be nex august 2011 so anything can happen by then. come to think of it-less is always better with a briday party anyhow
To me she sounded very happy for you (although you know her best). I agree with pp that it is best for her to not commit if she isn't sure. I'm sure she was honored to be asked though!
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I sent a e-mail to a my aunt that lives in the states (I live in canada) to be one of my brides maids and she sent me the below e-mail: