Post # 1
so lately I have been dealing with some really snarky and rude vendors and I am at my wits end. I was super excited about having decided on our cake and punch style wedding, but realised a change of attitude with the woman who responds to my emails in regards to the venue. Ever since I mentioned we would only like a 4 hour hire period for our wedding her attitude turned, and she has been finding problems with whatever we would like to do. When this woman thought we were going to be lining her pockets on a £15,000 wedding she was all over us, responded to emails within the hour, helpful and very polite, but you should of heard her disgust that it wasn’t really a ‘proper’ wedding because we weren’t having a sit down meal! Ever since then she takes about a week and a half to respond to any emails, I have to send 2-3 emails asking if she has recieved the previous email, and I try my best to be polite and not show my irritation to not make her more difficult then she already is but I just can’t take it anymore.
The venue is perfect for us, it is beautiful, affordable and 10 minutes away, and we have crepe caterers that prepare them fresh in front of the guests, we were going to have several buffet stations set up and a hot chocolate bar with various toppings too. But now it is like this woman doesn’t think we are good enough to hire the venue, and I get the feeling she would rather let someone who wanted the whole day take the booking and sees us as a waste because we wouldn’t be spending alot or earn her much revenue. Either way it is very insulting and I am so upset because we really had made our minds up about how we wanted the day to go.
I am so sick of vendors hearing the word wedding and jacking up the prices, or trying to get you to spend as much as possible and when they realise you won’t be suckered into their sales talk losing interest and being as unhelpful as possible. I once had a quote for a room and was quoted £3000 more for the day purely because they hadn’t realised it was for a wedding and thought I was just holding a normal party! I know I am really ranting but I need to get it out of my system, I just can’t stand people thinking they can rip someone off because it is their wedding, it is so unfair.
This woman has done everything that she can to try deter us from booking, from saying the room is too small for our amount of guests when it clearly states on the website the seating capacities, to giving ridiculous requests in regards to rules and regulations you need to abide by to book an event with them and now she is outright ignoring my emails. The last email I received was telling me that I cannot supply a cake or sweet buffet table as it needs to be supplied from a caterer with certain insurance policies, this means that I cannot supply ANY sweets, or even supply my own wedding cake because apparantly it needs to be insured!!!! What the hell!!! Someone please give me advice, I am THIS close to just eloping, I just want to be married, fh isn not bothered in having a wedding in the least and just wants us to be man and wife so pushing for us to elope too, and I am starting to go that route too, surely planning a wedding shouldn’t be this hard 🙁
Post # 2
BritishBride2015: I understand your frustration but if you don’t want to elope don’t do it. I would, however, be finding another venue. If your wedding isn’t “big and fancy” enough for her you can take you money elsewhere.
Post # 3
I think if you want a dessert reception with your friends and family, you should have one. Make a list of everything you want in your venue, and stick to it.
So far, I think your priorities are:
*allows you to bring in homemade desserts
*big enough for your guests (what is the number?)
*affordable (what is your budget?)
*straightforward rules & pricing system
*friendly/polite vendor who does not act disgusted with your wedding
You may have better luck booking a place that caters to birthday parties for businesses or large family reunions. You will also do best to avoid restaurants or catering companies that expect to make money through selling you the meal.
I was able to rule out most of the popular wedding venues in my city through some online work. If they didn’t put up a price, it usually meant it was outside my budget.
Post # 4
I’m sorry, I only had to deal with a few of these types of vendors. Of course, I didn’t book them but they were super annoying, and one of them STILL calls/emails me to this day.
One of them was a DJ whom wanted almost $3000 for his services. Now, i’m not saying he wasn’t worth the price, but I live in a very small area, surrounded by college towns. You can pickup DJs for as little as $300 – the one we went with was $600. He tried telling me on numerous occasions that he was “the best” and no other dj would “come close”. And that I may as well just hire a child to dj my wedding if I didn’t choose him.
Another was a photographer who basiclally said the same things. Except that my photos “would be horrible” if I didn’t choose him.
In all honestly, I would find another venue. It sounds like you would really love to have a wedding full of friends & family – and you should have that! You should have the wedding you want! You may need to go farther than 10 miles away but it will save you a lot of trouble.
Post # 5
I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time with vendors. If you don’t want to elope don’t do it though, you’ll most likely end up regretting it. Keep looking! There are so many options out their for vendors, and you deserve ones that treat you well. I cut anyone from the list who was rude or didn’t respond within a reasonable timeframe. You have options, so just keep looking!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies, it means alot to hear your words of encouragement! I will start tomorrow a new day, and just call time on trying to make things work with this vendor, who knows what else she may do to be spiteful if we push ahead with having the wedding at the venue, she is showing her true colours now so she may nearer the time cancel our date or something like that. Thanks for you support 🙂
Post # 7
I would try to find another venue, one that either allows you to bring in your own caterer or who will cater to your specific budget and idea for the wedding. I think the latter might be a bit tougher but it is definitely doable. When in 2015 do you get married?
you could try thinking outside of the box- a social club, town hall etc will allow you to bring in your own caterer and would allow for you to go all out on decoration. X