Post # 1
STFU, Parents posted a new blog yesterday on the topic. And it made me laugh, as most of the things on STFU, Parents do. Thought I’d share since this is a frequent discussion topic. 🙂
For those who don’t want to open the link for whatever reason I’ll repost below:
Blog commentary (for those not familiar with the website, this is meant satirically):
We all know that kids are a part of our community and should be treated with respect and fairness. Discrimination against children is a heinous crime, especially when it involves three little words: No Kids Allowed. Saying “no kids allowed” is the rule equivalent of slapping parents in the face. It’s commonly accepted by people, even people who disagree with it, because oh, wahhh, we have to let the couple who’s getting married have their wittle way. Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So-To-Be are assclowns who don’t want children at their wedding because children are “loud” and “messy” and “they can’t afford to have kids at the reception” and blah blah blah, and then what happens? The couple send out invitations that say “Please come to our wedding but leave your treasure of a baby at home because we are spoiled tyrants who condemn children and won’t have them at our fancy party.” And then everyone just nods and smiles and checks the box that says “Yes, I accept your total disregard of myextremely awesome child” and doesn’t say anything about it, even though it is blatant discrimination. And the couple basically get away with slapping their friends right across the face.
I mean think about it: You’re supposed to get your friends a gift in exchange for attending their wedding (or even just being invited to it), but somehow they’re not responsible for paying for your babysitter? How the hell does that work? It’d only be logical. OR, they could just rent an extra tent, a bounce house, some chaperones, and maybe set up a little “bartender” station with organic fruit smoothies (now how cute would that be?) near the reception so that moms and dads wouldn’t have to be far away from their little ones. Sure, it’d still be exclusionary as all hell, but it would be a start. As it is now, people get away with this “No Kids Allowed” policy far too much, and it’s doing real damage. Families are becoming divided. Cousins are missing out on registry goods from Pier 1 Imports. And all the while, everyone acts as if “No Kids Allowed” is perfectly normal. Well, it’s not. Just ask Nicolle and her friends.
Post # 3
This is one of those times I wished WB had a Like button.
Because I would SO be clicking that button!
Post # 4
@lilbluebird: I cannot tell you how many times I go to “like” something on here only to realize I’m not on Facebook .___.
Post # 5
Is this real? Is this what parents really think when they’re invited to an “adults only” wedding?
Post # 6
@Ill Be Mrs B: The screen caption of the FB post is real. The rest is the blogger’s tongue-in-cheek commentary on said photo. If you haven’t seen the page before people basically send in ridiculous parents’ posts from people on their FB friend’s list and “B” the anon. blogger adds her commentary.
Post # 8
This post is hilarious 😀
We briefly considered a kids-free wedding but we knew we’d have a ton of butthurt friends/family complaining at us/RSVPing “no” if we did. So we’re having kids at ours. I don’t mind kids at weddings, I think they are cute all dressed up and dancing, it’s just that I worked in a banquet hall in high school and I’ve seen a hundred kid-related problems that I would have really liked to avoid. Oh, well. At least they’ll liven up the reception 🙂
Post # 9
haha too funny. I bet anything all those parents had “no kid weddings” too! But, now they’re parents so, “they get it” and we don’t since we haven’t had kids yet!
Post # 10
@MrsWBS: It wouldn’t surprise me 🙂
@HeyKaraoke: We’re having kids at ours also. Actually, one of the reasons we picked our venue is because it comes with a playground 😛 haha
Post # 12
Hilarious post BUT
I’m one of those brides that had kids at wedding. Should’ve kept it Adults Only…here is why.
1. One of my guests newborn was crying on and off during our ceremony.
2. On most of my church pictures when my husband and I did our grand exit… you see two little girls standing behind us while we were kissing. They were in all of our grand exit pictures. Don’t even know who they belong to. See picture.
3. I overpaid for plates that kids didn’t eat because they spent most of the time running around.
4. During my bouquet toss, someone’s little girl jumps in the middle of crazy women trying to catch a bouquet. She’s lucky she didn’t get stompled. Argh!
5. Some left early at 10pm because it’s past bed time for child. When I paid for reception until 12:30am.
6. I felt like telling some of my guests to watch their kid on dance floor, people were dancing while kids were playing tag. Yeah, that would be nice…bride telling guests to watch their kid.
I did not want to exclude kids and honeslty believed back then that my guest would be responsible to watch over their children…BUT when alcohol is involved and lots of mingling…they’re not always going to watch them.
They’re kids, they don’t know what a wedding is.. All they want to do is run and play. Don’t get me wrong, I love kids, but I also won’t judge you if you decide on an Adults Only Reception.
Post # 13
I’m a parent, and I don’t feel that way (generally) when my kid’s not invited to things. It’s not a personal insult, it just is what it is. There are certain situations where I feel it’s rude, but, generally, I just get over it. It is super AWESOME when people arrange to help wrangle children at events, though. My husband’s family is throwing us a reception & they’re hiring a sitter and setting up an extra tent with a TV & games for the kids which is awesome & very gracious.
However, I do feel that “We’re trying to keep this an adult’s only event” type announcements kind of grate me. I was recently invited to a wedding, where only my DH & I were on the invitation. It’s an across country wedding, but I RSVPd without my son because he wasn’t invited, and had no problem with it. However, after I RSVPd, I noticed an obnoxious note on the back about trying to keep things child free, and that grated me for some reason. I guess I’m petty lol. I honestly think it’s kind of rude to invite people cross country without inviting their children (and without offering childcare), but I had initially overlooked it until the host thought I was too stupid to read who the invitation was addressed to. I’m sure lots of Bees will disagree with me, but oh well 🙂
Post # 14
I adore children, and will allow children at my wedding. But to be honest, if my 4 and 6 year old nieces weren’t going to be flower girls, I would think about not having kids there. In any case, I think ANY host of ANY party has a right to decide if they want children to attend or not. And should not be responsible for.a.babysitter. Just my opinion.
Post # 16
@les105: I would say that notes like that are not directed at you but at the people that literally thousands of WB posts are dedicated to who do things like cross off the number of reserved seats and write in a number that includes their children or who just show up with their kids without saying anything or who do any one of the myraid of passive aggressive things that some people do to try and get a bride to allow their kids at a child-free wedding. So don’t take it personally and keep being awesome.