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I just posted a blog earlier about having to plan a wedding across the country (friends and family are all on the east coast and I live in CA). It's really getting me stressed out and upset. I have to take soooo many things into consideration, such as travel and hotels. We are going to check out venues this weekend but they're about an hour from where we live and if we did choose it, how do I go about making plans for our guests. We live much closer to San Diego than where this wedding venue is, so I'm assuming the people would fly into San Diego airport. There are also a lot more things to do near SD(more affordable even) and we are able to provide the guests with more info on the areas closer to us. I thought "Well if we decide to have the wedding further away maybe they can just stay a night at a hotel up by the venue and then take the train or some sort of transportation back down to SD." Idk if that's asking too much, I feel like it is. Then I was thinking maybe if they're renting cars they could all drive to a specific meeting destination (from the SD area) and then take whatever transportation I have set up for them to the wedding in Newport Beach. After the wedding that transportation can take them back to their rental cars. I don't like a lot of the places I've looked at for weddings in this area (my town and near SD) so I'm not sure what I'm going to do. Either way, they'll have to use transportation. Oh, a hotel is out of the question.

What should we do!?

that's what i'm thinking. like maybe ask them to pick their flights in that area, stay at a hotel for a night or two before and the night of the wedding and then get a rental car to stay at a hotel near this area (since we know way more about this area and the hotels are far less expensive). if people don't to go that route they can do their own thing. i can't appease everyone. i think that's my problem, i'm trying so hard to make sure i can please everyone and accomodate everybody but i'm starting to realize it's impossible.

wow carrieanne! you sound kind of like my FH! he said basically the same thing about letting the guests take care of those things, not us. it's just i've read in magazines and seen on websites that since they're coming in to see US for OUR wedding we should really take care of a lot of things such as transportation. i think these people suggesting that assume we're all rich because if we did that, it would be A LOT of money. the same here, i only have a handful of friends coming(all of whom are over 24) the rest are grown adult family members. so let me get this right, basically all i should worry about is getting all the info together for them and letting them choose on their own where they want to stay and how they want to get around, if they don't like any of my suggestions they can just find places on their own?  that sounds  so much easier. i'm glad your family and friends are handling it all fine.

oh and the reason we may get married an hour away is because that is where the venue is..i wasn't looking to go that far, ive looked around here but there aren't many places that we like and i do not want to have a wedding at a hotel, i like to do things different and thats just not my taste. i feel like all our guests are traveling long distances to come to our wedding so we should give them a really unique/fun time! i'm trying though, to find places closer! haha after realizing how hard it might be if we travel an hour away for the wedding.

thanks again for the advice and info!