Post # 1
We are officially 118 days away from the day we are supposed to get married. We have a bunch of ideas in the works but no deposits are made, nothing is signed, and nothing is in stone. Its stressing me out and making me crazy. We had money set aside but had a huge financial set back (my son needed surgery). Needless to say the money that we had for the wedding went to payment for the surgery and we are left with the money we will get from our tax returns. I am stressed to the point to where I don’t even know if we can get married in may.
His parents want his ENITRE family invited. His dad has 13 brothers and sisters. My family understands that we are paying for it and I would be content with my immediate family in a small wedding and a back yard BBQ to follow. I feel like we are letting his family down by not having a big wedding, we don’t want to have to wait but we just simply cannot afford it.
Just a vent. Any support would be awesome!
Post # 3
If you have a backyard bbq type reception, then could you afford to invite all of your FH’s family? Have you looked into any VFW halls or condo clubhouses for rental? What about postponing just a few months?
Post # 4
Im sorry things are not going so well. When I got engaged my father told me that no matter what we decide to do in planning our wedding, someone was going to have a problem with it. So we should just do what WE want to do. You should do the same. This should be a happy time and if you ant afford a large event or you just dont want one, do what you want and the ones who truely love you will be there. Good luck, and worse case scenario push your date back. 🙂
Post # 5
Can you just be honest with his family and explain that while you’d like to host everyone that they would like to be there you guys just really can’t afford it? Really, it’s your wedding and if it’s that important to them that EVERYONE come, maybe they will be willing to chip in?