Post # 1
Sigh. I realize that people go through far more stressful wedding drama than this but I am
Just feeling so overwhelmed and upset about how the planning has gone so far. I am
Doing a destination wedding in Mexico. It was originally planned for March 2015 but that didn’t work out because it was far too expensive for our guests. Since I’m a teacher (mom, sister, and 1 bridesmaid is too) the only other viable option was Summer break. So I have done everything in my power to find dates that work for everyone. I compromised, offered to chip in for some family members’ plane ticket, shifted dates until the resort probably didn’t even trust me anymore…and now one of my teacher bridesmaids is telling me she really needs the money and needs to teach summer school. So after all that, and still it blew in My face.
Im only having 3 bridesmaids and they are truly my best Friends so this really upset me. I know I will probably just have to do it without her but this has just been so frustrating. Guess I was just hoping for a little comfort. Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
@mscuppycake: :Hugs: I’m sorry that you are stressing about this. I am a teacher as well, and I will say that is a risk you take when having a destination wedding. I have a summer job as well and need it to supplement our income. On our salaries and with the need to work in the summer, there’d be no way I could afford to go to a good friend’s DW, no matter how much I wanted to. Even with a year in advance to save, things come up. Again, that’s just the unfortunate downfall of a DW.
Maybe you all could celebrate with a lovely girls’ night out party when you return in order to include her? I think you have every right to be bummed, but you also have to realize DWs put a good financial strain on your guests, especially ones living off of salaries where they need to supplement their income.
Post # 4
I’m so so sorry 🙁
I was afraid my BFF wasn’t going to be at my wedding either and I was devastated just thinking about it.
I know it’s weird but is there anyway you could skype her in for the ceremony? That way she can feel like she’s there and she’s still included in a way?
Post # 5
I’m so sorry that you feel this way cuppycake. You’ve done everything you could to make this DW easier on everyone and unfortunately one person can’t make it. I understand the situation of that person but it is a bummer for you. But hey, just think, …..your day will still be beautiful because there will be alot of people there that you truly care for. I think its a good idea for you to get together before you leave with the teacher bridesmaid who can’t make it to Mexico.
Hugs to you!
Post # 6
I just wanted to come in and thank you for the support.
Everything worked itself out and the wedding is a go for next summer! All my bridesmaids will be able to come and I’ve finally come out and made the announcement to my family. It’s happening 🙂