Post # 1
I feel awful, my wedding is less than a month away and I really just don’t care anymore. I’m tired of people asking if I’m excited because I’m a terrible liar! Yes I’m excited to finally be marrying Fiance but the wedding… eh at this point I could take it or leave it.
Yesterday I found out that once my boss comes back from maternity leave (8 weeks) there is a real possibility my full-time job may be eliminated due to budget cuts. I would be fine financially for a few months but the job I would be looking for wouldn’t even start until July/August when school starts.
I live 500 miles from my mom and bridal party. I feel like I’ve done everything all by myself and I’m just sick of it! I’m sick of all the burlap and lace in my living room, all the boxes of mason jars, old books, and ribbon. I’m just tired of looking at it, I feel like I need a vacation from it!
For this to be something most girls look forward to for forever it’s been a huge letdown. I’m sorry to be so whiny, did anyone else just kind of give up a month before their wedding?
Post # 3
@SunnyBunny: Welcome to normal
I am feeling just the way you are right now – I woke up at 3a starting to go through my projects for that have to be done and I am just tired of it. And also tired of the family drama and craziness BUT it reminds me of being pregnant – the last month before the baby comes you are just tired of the whole thing – does not mean you do not want the baby though!
Know you are not alone!!!
Post # 4
I went through that. Put the burlap and lace out of sight for a week and do nothing wedding related. You may find you perk up again afterward! I had a lot of ups and downs with my interest level throughout the course of my engagement, so I understand the slumps. Breaks are important.
Post # 5
I can totally relate to your sentiment! I often have slumps myself and am actually excited to get back my “regular life” where I have time to read and take classes for fun. My only advice is to try to think about your wedding day and your actual marriage down the line. It really helps me to remember why I am doing all of this. I want to celebrate this momentous occasion with my friends and relatives and I want to throw them a great party. When I think in these terms, it brings a smile to my face and reminds me what this is all about. And I agree with the PP…put it out of sight for a little while and do some of the things that you love to do! Hopefully, it will reinvigorate you!
Post # 6
Thank you so much ladies 🙂 I really just needed to get it all out to someone who understands, I feel so much better now.
I had started feeling really guilty and have spent a lot of time analyzing to make sure it’s not the marriage that’s stressing me, just all of the planning!
@Keltaena: I think I’ll take you up on this suggestion, I’m going home a week early to finish everything up so I think I’m going to go ahead and pack up everything I know I won’t touch until then, just so I’m not thinking about it.
@unixfairy: Thank you! I was feeling like an awful person admitting that I wasn’t enjoying it anymore. It just seems like after that day everything will calm down and we can finally rest!
@crosswordpuzzle: Thank you for sharing that perspective, it does help looking across to the other side instead of just focusing on THE day.
I’m also happy to know that part of these feelings are PMS induced and will hopefully go away in a few days lol, AF makes me crazy!
Post # 7
Hi hun, I feel EXACTLY the same way. I can totally relate. The sad part is, my wedding is three months away and I’ve been feeling this way for a while. I don’t know how I’ll make it through the next three months without a breakdown.
I can tell you, what helps, is doing things non-wedding related. I went clothes shopping last week and it is was liberating to be spending money on myself, and not on this damn wedding! I hadn’t bought anything for ME in forever.
Post # 8
I’ve literally just had my breaking point if I could afford to I’d leave work right now crawl into bed and cry for hours. I’m so stressed my finace said last night that I keep complaining about be stressed but I’m not giving him anything to do. My reasoning for this I would still have to tell him what to do or what to say how to do it. He’s not computer smart and its just easier since everything gets emailed to me. But I’m sick of him asking me everyday if I’ve done something have I called this person put the deposit on this or that. I’m so tired and I still have 5 months left. I’m going away for girls weekend in a week and a half and I cant wait i’m doing nothing wedding related I’m bringing a book and just relaxing I cannot wait. It will not come fast enough!
Sorry for the long rant I’ve just hit my breaking point and I needed to vent to someone!
Post # 9
*hugs* I’ve already been having these feelings! And I was analyzing the same exact thing. Taking a break from it all really helped me. I guess I didn’t technically take a break since I was shopping for my day of jewlery and a bridal shower dress, but after that I felt so much better and was excited about our wedding again. Hope things get better!! Your big day is almost here!!! 🙂