Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
So, I’m engaged but FI hasn’t had a chance to give me my ring yet. He bought it on the internet and is going to give it to me when we see each other over Christmas (Army leave).
Here’s my dilemma: I have access to FI’s email address so that I could take care of some things while he was deployed. The other day he asked me to go into the account and see if they had billed him for this month on our joint Netflix account. As soon as I went into his inbox, the first email there was an email from a jewelry seller with the subject “Antique white gold engagement ring”. I was SOOOO tempted to click! I immediately had to log out and never figured out whether Netflix had billed him lol.
What do I do?! Do I tell him I saw the email and have him change his password? I want to be surpised by the ring since the engagement was no surprise. Convince me not to click!!!
Post # 3
I’m bad. I would go click that email.
Post # 4
BUT, in reality, you should have him change the password lol.
Post # 5
Even though you’re already engaged, please don’t ruin this for your FI. I imagine he’d like to see your face the first time you see the ring. Surprisingly, this can be a really big/meaningful thing for men. I would hate for you to take that away from him.
Post # 6
Don’t look!! It will be SO much better seeing it in person for the first time. It’s difficult I know!! But it’s like knowing what you are getting on Christmas morning. Self control!
Post # 7
Not saying it’s the right thing to do, it’s just what I would do.
Then again I’m also the person who found out that the hubs was researching diamonds by finding links in his “Pharmacy – Flu Vaccine” bookmark folder.
Post # 8
Don’t look! I resisted the temptation to check FI’s email when I knew the proposal was near, and I’m glad I did!
Post # 9
I’m sure it’s tough not to go snooping; however, think about what snooping might do to your relationship. He gave you permission to go look in his email for the Netflix bill. He didn’t give you permission to look at anything else in there. Maybe you and your fiance are the type of people who are completely open with one another (and that’s a good thing), but he might consider it a betrayal of trust for you to go in and snoop around for the email about the ring.
Besides, think of how amazing it will be when you see him holding the ring and how special it will be for him to see you looking at it for the first time. You may already be engaged, but I feel like that would be an incredibly special and beautiful moment for you two to share together.
And Christmas is only a few weeks away. I know it seems like forever right now, but it’s not that long to wait.