So the wedding's done… Real life starts here?!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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35 posts
Newbee

Do you mind me asking your age?  This is going to sound harsh, but… It sounds like you planned for a wedding but not a marriage.  

Post # 3
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242 posts
Helper bee

I would think this is pretty common. A down-swing after the upswing is expected in life, at least in my experience. What have you always wanted to do? What about him? Find and explore a new hobby together, hiking, bike riding, working out, cooking, dancing, whatever. Also, I am a big fan of spouses having independence from each other and having friends/things they do alone. Not everyone likes this, yet I think it is a good thing. Just a thought, enjoy the memories you have, relax in your being newly married, decorate your home, travel, just have  fun!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think some of it is natural. You’ve had some big events to plan for/look forward to – moving abroad and planning a wedding – now maybe you don’t have any ‘big’ events on the horizon yet. I agree with PP, spend time with each other, find new interests/hobbies, etc. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Welshwife2014:  All the excitement, planning and celebration of the wedding is done and now it’s all down to us what happens from here.

That’s right.  Your marriage will be what you two make of it, which of course, it’s easier said than done.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  Robyn0214.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No, and we won’t feel this way. We are getting married on our 4 year dating anniversary (next week) . This is far from new. I am content with the idea of our home life and relationship remaining the same, except maybe even better. The wedding is just one day. The marriage is the most important part! We are getting married because we are fully committed to being together for the exciting days as well as the mundane. Marriage is not a constant roller coaster ride, and if it is that is probably not a good sign. You have to be realistic about marriage. There will be fun and difficult times. I hope you are both prepared… Good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Welshwife2014:  I have seen plenty of posts here about post-wedding blues. It seems quite normal. 

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