LOL your post made me imagine a runway with different planes waiting in line to jettison.
22-25 or so is also when "baby fever" seems to hit. I remember going through it back then and now I'm all like... eh.... If it happens I'll clean up the poop,... if it doesn't I'll enjoy all the extra money and time and sleep. LOL
I remember that! Everyone in my family gets married older (late 20s early 30s), so I wasn't surprised that I got engaged at 27. But I've had a good 5 years of people getting married while I was waiting for a ring. Now I just get to hang out while people keep having intentional babies while I wait until we're ready!
@Bunny82: Yes, yes I am a plane ready to fly off to Engagedland.
My SO has been very shocked about it all, and wondering aloud how these guys our age can afford to buy rings. This is before I remind him about my reasonable ring suggestions, of course, heheh.
Lol... my friends are late bloomers probably because they are the grad school types so engagements didn't start until about age 26.
Really? At 22? A few of my friends got married then, but I feel like 24 - 26 is more common around where I live (in the Midwest.)
So interesting how different it can be among groups and regions! Most of my close friends are single, and I feel like the anomaly (married at 24).
I could mention that I live in the South, people tend to get married what most consider young in this region.
Most people I know are finishing college and getting established so it must be lonely for them as young married folks on the east coast. Off the top of head I can only think of two or three people I know who got married/engaged at that age.
Lol well after we graduated high school, a bunch of girls from our graduating class (I went to an all-girls Catholic high school) got pregnant, got married or both. In my group of friends however, we are in our mid-20s now and only one has gotten married, another has gotten engaged, a few (including myself) are in long-term relationships and the rest are single so we have quite a variety. No babies yet though lol.
My son just turned 22 and hasn't had a steady girlfriend yet. I'm glad for that since I believe now is the time to explore the world and/or what he wants to make of his life. One of his best friends just broke up with his GF of 5 years and his closest friend is turning 21 in early December and getting married late Dec. which seems extremely young to me. I do think it's regional. I moved to Colorado from New York City many years ago and was shocked by how many young people got married here. I'm also glad that my 16 yr old daughter is more involved in her studies now than boys and still awaits her first date. I'd be very concerned and unhappy if she was like some of her friends who have had a boyfriend for 2 years at this age.
Enjoy your youth! I think for many people what's right in a relationship at 21(ish) is a moving target as they get older and more mature.
@misskittenn: Ha! I'm only 19 and it seems like everyone I know is engaged or married!! XD
That's just happening for people in my graduating class now & I'm 25. Guess it's regional.
My friends are apparently weirdly unhurried, because I'm in my 30s and half of my friends are married, some even on kid #2, while the other half are still single (and most of those are planning to marry, eventually). Every summer for a while now (early 20s I guess) there's been about 2-4 weddings in my circle, no big increase at any particular point. I live in a big city, if that makes a difference.
ETA: I'm kinda glad it's been that way because if I was in the minority of people I know to still be unmarried by the time I entered my 30s I think I would have been insecure about it and may have even hurried and married the wrong guy.
I think people started getting engaged after I graduated college and now people are getting engaged/married at an exponential rate- which makes waiting all the more difficult!! And now couples who have been married a couple years are having kids. And that just makes me feel behind. I'm 25 on the west coast. But most of my high school friends are married and have kids (small rural community). More and more of my college/ grad school friends are getting engaged and tying the know now though.
I think it is regional, but I am totally in lovers lane or something. There was a wave when I was a freshmen in college of all the "older kids" then kind of a lull, then DH and I set off some kind of crazyness. No less than 20 people I know have gotten engaged/married/had babies in the last year. Its insane!
26-27 for my group! I was in 3 weddings this summer including my own and I attended 2 others as a guest!
Well of my friends in the UK or ex pats here in Rome a few are engaged, one couple married another couple have a baby (but not married or engaged) and a few are like us in a serious relationship heading towards engagement, but a vast majority of our friends are single.
Of my friends back home a few are engaged and of SO friends back in the states just one got engaged last months.
But everyone is in their mid to late twenties some even early thirties
@misskittenn: my coworker showed me his facebook (he just hit 30) and it's all weddings and babies. it's insane! mine's still only engagements and weddings, not many babies yet but I believed it when people say "you're at that age" because DAYUM. SERIOUSLY!
@misskittenn: I know exactly what you mean! While I had two married friends at home in FL, since moving to TN two months ago every. single. woman. I have formally met is either married or engaged. And every stranger in my age bracket is boasting a honking engagement ring as she rings me up at the grocery store, fills my prescription, hands me my Taco Bell, etc. This is inconcievable where I come from but also a sort of nice atmosphere :] it means that when you DO board that plane everyone will be much more accepting and supportive which will be quite welcome. Geography makes a difference!
You might be "at that age" for where you live...but that's super young for where I live. Average age is 30-ish here!
With my group we hit "that age" around 26-27. A lot of us have advanced degrees or have a good base with our careers. I like that we have been able to discover ourselves, then find the person who matched our adult selves. But that is just the norm around here.
I think it's a Southern thing. Most of my college friends are married or in serious relationships. My friends up North are still trying to figure out what they want to do with themselves or are finishing their advanced degrees at 25-30.
I'm in Denver, and my friends are all 27-29 and it's been slowly happening for the last year and a half. People here tend to stay single a lot longer. Most of my friends are too focused on their careers or traveling or skiing to rush into settling down. I can't imaging how weird it would have been if everyone I knew had gotten married at 22. We'd probably all be divorced by now.
@AlwaysSunny: I was going to say the same thing! I feel like I see more weddings now (im 28) than I did when I was in my early 20's. I think there were a lot of couples for sure. Like longterm steady couples but no one really started to get engaged in my circle of friends until about 26 or so. And those couples were like the highschool sweethearts that had been together forever and ever lol. The rest of us were kind of slackin lol even though most of us couples had been together since like 20-22. I also still have a good number of friends who are still single and livin it up with their careers and enjoying city single life. 22 was rather young for engagements for us.
Keep in mind... FI and I did get engaged young but no wedding, we knew we wanted to get married but never started planning one. Good thing too because we had a 2 year break up in there lol and it was needed for us to grow.
I had some friends marry when they were that young. But I am 28 now and I have seen WAY MORE now at 26+ then I ever saw when I was younger!! This year and last year alone, were ridiculous. Lots more babies now too. I also still have quite a few single friends.
dh and I are 30 and 28 respectively and not even half of our friends have gotten married or engaged, and there are barely any babies! ie, out of our bridal party of 14 people, my bro and sil were married and have a toddler and another on the way, but they're the only 2 with babies. 1 of my other bridesmaids got married the same year as us. no one else was married then (2 years ago). since then, our best man got married, and my moh and 1 other bridesmaid are now engaged to the guys they were with at our wedding. 3 groomsmen and 1 bridesmaid are still in the same long term relationships but not engaged yet (all but 1 of them lives with their significant other). 2 bridesmaids are and were single, and 2 groomsman who were in relationships then are now single (including 1 who was engaged then).
so yeah, our friends still haven't reached "that age" yet and our social group is nearing 30! that said, our friends mostly live in big cities (though I'm from a small midwestern town)--most either live on the east coast (mostly nyc, dc, boston, or philly) or the san francisco area, and of those same 14 more than half have or are currently working on graduate degrees. at age 22 we were going to happy hour after work, just having fun, starting off our careers, not even thinking about kids or marriage yet!
None of my close friends are engaged yet, but I do know some people my age who are already married or engaged. I'm 22.
We are ALL starting to hit the wall here in NYC, for years we were all single and after 30, all of a sudden, people are starting to bite the dust right and left.
We've only had two engagements so far, but there are many of us in serious relationships and I think the next two years are going to be NUTS. As in... I know 10 couples who will be engaged in the next two years, and that includes me (knock on wood)
Not everyone waits till 30 here, but everyone I know has! All my friends from back home got married in a wave from 23-25 though.
I think in my area its been 25-28 was when a lot of people started getting engaged. I should say though, those people almost always were marrying a person they'd been with for many years (mostly college sweethearts). I actually think it will come in 2 waves, right now people are marrying their longtime lovers they dated in highschool or college, and I think in a few years I'll start seeing my friends who were single now and last year start getting engaged.
@crayfish: +1
It's gotta be a southern thing. Here in the northeast, marriage in your 20s is not the norm at all.
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I kind of scoffed at people telling me I'm about the age (22) where everyone just starts to get engaged/married. And holy crap, they weren't kidding. There have been four engagements in the past week alone, and in the next few months two of my friends are getting married.
I wish I could visualize a mental line of all of my couple friends so I could see where I am in the line-up for an engagement, lol.
Next thing I know there will be tons of babies! I guess once your friends start getting engaged it just accelerates from there.