So thinks we should move out of state when we marry… bit uncertain about it

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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11740 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think moving might be a good option if you can find a viable career path and a way to support yourselves.  Jobs are hard to come by these days, and moving for the sake of moving is troubling.

Post # 4
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think moving sounds like a good plan – you could try to give it a year in NC and move if things just get too much. That sounds like a good comprimise (I’d probably try to move a bit out of the way from mom during that time) and gives you two a chance to settle into your marriage without major life shake-ups happening at the same time.

If/when you move:
Try to find friends right when you move (meetup groups, voulenteer, etc.)
Get jobs first (of course) so you have the finances required.
Remember that you can always move back home (OR somewhere else – why not!)

I wish we could move out of state, but our career opportunities (both architects) are sort of at their best where we are right now. Other parts of the country aren’t doing as well as the NYC area is. SIGH.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@katiecat08:  If you are still young, I would encourage you to move for the new experience with your soon to be husband. Live elsewhere for a couple of years, and if you feel like coming back you are free to do so. Set out a plan with your FI– for example agree to 2 years and then to re-address the move at that time. That way, both people are on board.  Don’t let your mom control your relationship, let  alone your marriage. that will be a disaster. 

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