So this is just a rant… sorry if it offends- I hate Thirty-One Parties, etc.

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

AMEN!!! Rant on sister!!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

mrsc630:  I was honestly going to post an eerily similar rant this morning, I wonder if we know the same people haha! 

I COMPLETELY agree with you!  I was ranting to my FI about it last night because people can just add you to their facebook groups, so I’m forced to either #1 Buy their stuff/give them money, or #2 Look like a jerk and either leave the group or just not buy anything (which is hard too because in facebook groups they can see that you saw their posts, ugh, so “oh I just didn’t see it!” doesn’t work either).  

I really really really hate that there’s no “respectful” way to just say no thank you.  FI pointed out that in “real life” you can just say “oh, no, I have ____ that day, I can’t make it” if you don’t want to go or just aren’t interested, but online there’s nothing you can do without looking like the bad guy.

Also in-person parties can be fun because you meet new people and hang out with your friends, online you skip all that and go straight to the bottom line.  FI pointed out that when someone hosts you have a few drinks with the ladies, chat for a while, and then buy things (sort of as a “thank you” for hosting this party to the one who invited you), but again online you skip all that.  Now it is “thank you for adding me against my will to this group so now I have no way to get out of buying your crap without you thinking I hate you since I left your group or just chose not to give you money right now even though you were constantly bombarding me with notifications and we’re close friends.” 

I can’t help but feel put-out anytime a friend (usually a pretty close friend, so of course I feel bad if I don’t buy a few things) adds me to one of those, and don’t even get me started on the constant notifications that follow for the next week if not more.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

mrsc630:  ugh i’m right there with you sister. i hate them too. if i go, i never buy anything because i think it’s all crap, and overpriced crap at that! there are people that love it, and that’s fine. to each her own! but to me, a party where you’re being sold to is just work. a real party is like…alcohol and cake, whitney houston, and no salesmen. seriously.

it’s a pyramid scheme. and you can sit there and tell me it’s not, or how it is but “every business is a pyramid if you think about it,” or “the pyramids are the strongest structures,” or literally anything in favor of pyramids and i’m still just like, no. i don’t know ANYONE who wants mary kay, canvas bags, jamberry nail stickers (stickers! you’re an adult!!), or scentsy (you can buy it in stores, you know this right). 

oh and in response to one of the PPs talking about online parties (and you too, OP): y’all. i have a rule that is in place with my friends and they know it. it is: if you invite me via facebook, i’m not part of it. either call me, or text me. that way, i can decline. a facebook invite is impersonal, and it sure as hell isn’t a party. it’s a chat group. bitches please. ain’t goin’. ain’t responding. ain’t. doin’. NOTHIN’.

 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  MrsHalpert.
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

mrsc630:  I respect that it’s a job and you all work hard as anyone else does.<br /><br />This may be true for many consultants – but none of my other friends expect me to purchase things to support their jobs (or at most, have rare fundraising events) or make me attend events centered around their jobs!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

mrsc630:  What are these parties?  I must live under a rock.  I’ve only heard of 31 because my cousin gave us a 31 bag for our daughter.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

mrsc630:  YES! I moved to a new community, a small town, about a year and a half ago. I was excited to get to know some of the other police wives and make some friends. NOPE! They all want to invite me to buy crap from them (Pampered Chef, Mary Kay, some weird clothing line I can’t remember the name of), but they never actully invite me to regular social events (trust me, I’ve tried initiating). All they want is another wallet to sell to. It’s very frustrating.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

“I really just want to tell them all- I’m not going to your parties b/c I don’t want to”

THIS.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

mrs.joiner:  The “jamberry nails” <- making me cringe since I was unfortunately just in a facebook group that constantly posted about it for a week are nail stickers you put on with a blow dryer.  The hostess was a close friend (she’s a sweet girl, really, I don’t hold it against her I love her to death I’m just ranting about parties in general) so of course I had to buy them, I sent them to my teenage sister since I get my nails done.  

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I kind of hate these, too. I hate the pressure of buying something to support a friend. I think it’s unfair. I’d rather just buy my jewelry, makeup, whatever via my usual channels. And I do, for the most part, but every now and then I feel bad and buy something through one of these parties. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i just decline all parties, especially FB ones.  if i have to attend the party, i tell them i am most likely not buying anything and i NEVER feel obligated to buy.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

MrsTywinLannister:  See, I don’t feel bad at all about not buying stuff, particularly from Facebook “parties”. They can think I’m a mean person or whatever they want- they’re the one selling overpriced crap. If I’m going to blow $150 on cookware, it’s going to be Anolon or All-clad, certainly not Pampered Chef.  But maybe you know your assailants- erm, salespeople- better than I know mine.

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