Post # 1
Does anyone else feel this way??
I am jsut so tired of being cash strapped, and living paycheck to paycheck, and blowing a TON of money on one day and party. I am SO over it. I love Fiance and wish that we had just gone on a trip somewhere by ourselves or gone to city hall or something, because regardless the outcome of us being married would be the same. I know that I will be blissfully happy on that day and that it will all be wonderful, but I don’t think it will be worth it. And the stress of being so strpped now certainly is not worth it!
AUGH. Thanks for letting me vent. I’ve tried to voice these concerns to friends and fmaily and I either get snapped at or told I am crazy.
Post # 3
My Fiance feels the same way….We aren’t necessarily living paycheck to paycheck but I have to rein him in every now and then so that we can have $$ @ the end of each month for the wedding. We are only spending about $12-13,000 but its still a good chunck of change when you add it all up.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Yup, it pretty much blows…I think my best solution is to treat yourself to a splurge, just something so you don’t feel so deprived…Maybe a nice dinner out with the FH or some shopping, nothing too crazy, just do something to make it seem like you’re not quite so deprived…
I do this fairly often, which might explain my lack of savings for the wedding…Must cut back! But I totally feel your pain, it sucks!
Post # 5
I can totally agree with you, I really actually wish I could cancel the whole thing and just have the legal ceremony.
But alas, deposits have been made, outfits purchased, etc so no turning back now 🙁 I know I will be so happy and have so much fun that day! But its just getting there that kills me!
Post # 6
you are not alone, we live paycheck to paycheck as well.
we actually are ALREADY married through city hall, I just have this burning sensation to get married or renew our vows infront of our family. Sometimes I do feel like saying a reception is not necessary…
Idk what it is though!?
the typical girl mentality!? that keeps me going towards spending the money!?!
were trying to keep it as simple as possible.
Post # 7
I was just saying to a co-worker this morning that I’m so tired of being broke from spending money on the wedding. And it’s not until October! I miss having my extra money to do with what I want…after it’s automatically sent to my various savings account, of course.
Post # 8
@Osakagrl…I mentioned that possibility to my mom this morning…I said we are 7 months out, we could jsut go and do it and all I got was a nasty comment back about all the deposits she fronted us money for and that we will have to make sure to pay it all back.
I know this is supposed to be a joyous time. And I will be estatic that day….but right now, it just seems like a HUGE waste.
Gosh I am such a debbie downer today!
Post # 9
@Justlikeheaven – My boy and I are legally already married also. we actually werent going to have a ceremony but so many people begged us to have a ceremony. including my Father-In-Law, he was very very set on us having a ceremony for families. So I said what the hell! ok! but i kind of regret it = =
We live paycheck to paycheck and I wish we spent the money on things for our home 🙁
Post # 10
I feel your pain. I havent bought anything for myself in ages. Everything is wedding related. Today I splurged and ordered a Victoria’s Secret BRIDE hoodie. OH crap. Wedding related. So yea, it sucks!
Post # 11
I totally understand! It’s exhausting not having fund to do things. It’s even to the point were I feel guilty spending on the wedding if it doesn’t have to be purchased at the moment!
We thought about scrapping it all, too, for a big trip. But I don’t want to regret it.
Go splurg on a dinner or facial! It will feel good and hold you over longer 🙂
Post # 12
@Osaka and @Justlikeheaven — In the same boat, also got married by a Justice of the Peace in our home in August…just the parents and my brother were present. We had already made deposits prior so we are still going through w/ everything (no one else knows we are married). I actually went out and purchsed my wedding gown a day AFTER we got married….talk about doing things backwards.
Post # 13
@mrsmossman – yeah I feel like we were pressured in a sense to go through with it. I was perfectly happy with the civil ceremony. but then SO MANY people were like OMG YOUR GOING TO REGRET NOT HAVING A CEREMONY! And I freaked and thought omg what if they are right?? what if i do regret it. so at spur of the moment we started planning. I really wish that I had stuck to my guns.
Post # 14
Osakagrl – wow… someone else on this board in the same situation as I am! your date is coming up!
I will def be following you on here.
are you only having a ceremony for family or a full blown reception as well?!
we are trying to limit our cost since its not an actual “wedding” at the reception. No bridal party, probably no limo, cupcakes, very simple decor, and a photographer & videographer isnt at the top of our list.. depending on how $ goes for us. Afterall that is why we are inviting all 150 family members (*his and mine) .. to take pictures!
Post # 15
I understand how y’all feel. Not only are my Fiance and I living paycheck to paycheck, we both work in the service industry, where the majority of our money comes from tips So we never know at the end of the month exactly how much we will make the next month. On top of that, we are both paying our way through college. We aren’t getting married for another year or so, both since we are footing the bill for a lot of the costs, it’s difficult to curve my oh so apparent spending habit (and he is worse than me sometimes!).
Post # 16
yay someone else like us!