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and its only been 3 months :( i thought forsure this was the month...                    a few days before my 27th birthday... but NO ugh Aunt flow showed up. It makes me sad :( I think more because I am already going to be 27

And when i tell my husband hes like.. its okay we can always adopt... and of course i go and get upset and start crying. Like I'm all for adoption but I want MY baby. I guess guys dont understand. 

@Ms Mini: i have actually been off birthcontrol for a year now :( thats what I dont understand

For most women it takes a while.  You just need to relax and keep trying.  There is NO reason to freak out yet.  Did you speak to your doctor before you started trying?  Unless she told you that you have reason to be concerned, I'm sure you are doing fine.  Keep trying (that's the fun part!) and if you're still not pregnant in a year, I would go back to your doctor and figure out what's up.  No worries, just breathe!

You're not at all old, but I do understand the frustration about trying to get pregnant.  I get downright mad when i see someone posting that it's their 1st, 2nd, 3rd month and they're pregnant.  I know it's silly but it's so hard.  We're on our 4th month and I can't tell if I've got some spotting or AF is here.  I know there is always next month but it would just be great if we could have any easy time at this too.

@Miss Starry Night: I know :( im just being selfish

@stranger1: I know it isn't old but all our friends have 2-3 kids already. We actually tried when we were 25 but we just weren't ready. SO we decided to get married and wait. I always wanted me first when i was 25 :( i think thats why im thinking wow im going to be 27 and still nothing

@Miss Sapphire: I know i think thats what it is.. I hear all the people i know getting pregnant after the 2nd month... or the "accidental" pregnancy. I just hate that ever since we got married everyone asks "so when are you going to have a baby" like yea i wish it was that easy. just to say it and the next day we are pregnant.

did you just write that post for me??!!! lol. seriously - so many of us out here are in your boat. We've only been technically trying for 2 months - as far as me charting and whatnot - but I've been off BC since March. Every month that AF comes it's like "ugh - ok, another month of trying"...

and I'M 31 - my husband is 37!!!! neither of us have any kids, so this is our first - and what's REALLY hard? I just found out another girl at work is pregnant - that makes #4 - all younger than me, too - and this girl was a COMPLETE surprise! one of those who - she's been with her boyfriend for years, but NO one would EVER think of her to be TTC.

it sucks. but it WILL happen. just think - once it DOES happen, it IS  a lifetime commitment! they'll be here FOREVER! :D

good luck and ::babydust:: to you!!! :D

I totally understand your frustration!  We were not trying not to for about a year.  Then really trying for a few months and now we're on fertility drugs and it's still not happening.  It's so frustrating to try and try and have nothing happen.  I have 4 friends who are all pregnant - 2 "accidents" and 2 who got it on the first try - which makes it even more frustrating.

I'll tell you what my mom keeps telling me (she's a nurse) - just try to stay relaxed.  The stress and frustration aren't good for TTC.  Way easier said than done, I know.

Good luck!

@Mrs Green Grass: yup i know there are alot of pregnant girls i know, and my sister in law just brought her 3 month old over again saturday and i was holding him all day :(

@EvaBostonTerrier: I think that is what I am afraid of, i have a app on my phone that tracks your dates. Not temptature or anything yet, maybe i should try that. I am going to buy some ovulation kits this month too. maybe that will help. It just sucks because everyone month i think i have the sympthoms and NO lol

@JuneBride_26June2010: Exactly i have been off birthcontrol for a year... not charting or anything just kinda if it happens it happens and no luck :( so now that we are REALLY trying nothing. I have been charting but i also heard about this stuff called Pre-seed some people swear by it. I am going to try it this month and get a ovulation kit. 

@Candy_Nee: yup same here.. WOW 4 friends thats alot at once lol. I know of two right now and im thinking another one is and just hasnt came out to say it yet.  Okay I am going to try and relax it was just frustrated yesterday. 

@2PeasinaPod: I know i hate the waiting game! i wish you can just test right after lol instead of waiting in suspense. 

thanks ladies good luck!!

@jaylovessteez: i have pre-seed. I'm also using the cups everyone on babyandbump talk about...but i've only used the preseed once since i've gotten it. i need to use it more! course what SUCKS is from now til new years - DH is INSANELY busy at work which makes him exhausted when it gets home...

@JuneBride_26June2010: what are the cups??? im curious now!

@ladyox: one day... one day we shall all be prego LOL hopefully sooner then later

haha. "Softcups" are pretty popular on babyandbump.com you can get them at walmart, walgreens, pretty much anywhere...

http://www.softcup.com/

while it's not technically "FDA approved" for use FOR fertility - many women are swearing by them! they are basically used, after doing the deed - to keep everything inside. google them and babyandbump and you'll find loads of information!

I highly recommend 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility' and charting your temperature.  The dates based on your period are a start but I think charting your temperature might give you a more personalized idea of how your cycle works and when ovulation is taking place.  If nothing else you'll end up with more info on your cycle and if you want to go to a doctor at a later date for help you'll have more data with you.

Keep up the trying!  Enjoy it and don't put too much pressure on yourself! Good luck!

@AnamCara: Thanks I will try to find the book. Do they have it at barnes & noble?

@professorbee: I heard that but wasn't too sure. I am going to go buy some this week :) hopefully it will help me out.

@Mrs. DG: Thank you :) i hope so too!

@jaylovessteez - I'm sure they have it in the major bookstores but I got mine from the library!  Bargain shopper that I am...  I renewed it a few times but I got a lot of info from it.  I would check your local library as well as bookstores - it's a pricey enough book but well worth it if you want to have your own copy.  There are also some helpful charts online that you can print out to help you keep track on paper and I know other bees have used an application on iPhones or other online sites like FertilityFriend.com (which I used too)

There's tons of info but Taking Charge of Your Fertility can help you start at step one whereas I found some of the websites assumed I knew stuff I didn't really 'get' yet.

Good luck!