you are not alone! My fiance and I dated for three and a half years before he proposed, and then we waited 9 months just to set a date! Talk about frustrating! We actually got into a HUGE argument because our “timelines” didn’t match up. I actually almost gave the ring back.
But long story short, I was also VERY tired of waiting for things to happen with us. None of the circumstances were either one of our faults, though. We had unexpected deaths in the family, unexpected job loss, unexpecting sickness, unexpected money issues, etc, etc, so we were FORCED to wait. Maybe the fact that these circumstances were out of our control is what made me so frustrated in the first place, but literally as soon as that ring was on my finger, for some reason I just expected everything to be perfect and happen 123.
But it didn’t. We are still taking our time, and our wedding date is “tentatively” set for September 2013 … which still feels like a LOOOONG time.
But we want to make sure we have everything under control — our jobs, finances, a place to live, etc.
It is really hard waiting sometimes because most of our friends are getting engaged, married, buying houses, and having babies SO FAST. Sometimes I get jealous. Other times I’m happy we’re waiting because it’ll mean so much more. And think of it this way — you won’t have to worry about last minute issues or having way too much to do in such little time. In fact, if you plan little by little (like we are) you will probably be able to take breaks from planning, which can definitely help with stress!
Plus you will have more time to save money, and just more time in general to “browse” for vendors, get your dress altered, etc.
Just enjoy the planning and engagement as much as you can and try to be glad that you’ll have longer to do it than most people.
I was one of those girls who thought, “Ugh 2013 is SOOOO far away” and “OMG it took us NINE MONTHS to set a date!” but the time has gone SO fast already! In fact I can’t believe it’s been almost a year since we’ve gotten engaged. Looking back, I’m actually glad things have moved slowly!
Just concentrate on the positives and know you’re not alone. : )