Post # 1
Alright ladies, I need help again, I took on more than I could handle here.
im a mom of a five year old who just started school and every week there’s some function to go to. I’m a full time student with just one year left to go. I went and applied for some jobs three or four weeks ago and got a job Monday. I was supposed to be part time but they need me full time.
My hours are 5:30am-3pm, I’ve also been volunteering at my church for the last year.
i took on too much. I just got a BFP two weeks ago and that alone has caused so much exhaustion, I have epilepsy and lack of sleep makes it so much worse.
i dont need the job per se but I was sooo looking forward to making extra money for much needed clothes, (i always feel guilty when DH buys my clothes so i typically dont let him) trips etc.
maybe I’m just on here to vent or to get reassurance on what I should do but something’s gotta give. I’m terrible at making decisions and don’t know if I can quit my job or if it will get easier with time.
so I’m here to ask opinions. What would you do? What should I do? I’m just so tired. Not to mention we are moving into our house in less than two weeks and it just adds to the mess. What should I do? DH says quit but I know he is trying to be nice so I’m looking for unbiased opinions, what would you do?
Post # 3
@Mrslovebug: Your job is 10 hours a day? That’s insane. Personally, I would take something part-time. You will burn yourself out! If money isn’t super tight (it would just be extra money on the side) wait it out for something part-time. Love, Another Bee that Takes on Too Much.
Post # 4
You have a lot on your plate. I was also in a similar situation where I would volunteer, work, support family etc. My husband helped me realize what is important though. So slowly started to take a step back and resigned from the responsibilities. I would try to leave on a good note so that you dont burn any bridges. I miss doing some of those things but also appreciate my less stressful life.
Take a step back and list three or five priorities in life and maybe make your decisions based on that.
Post # 5
What is more important to you? I think you want to quit but feel guilty about doing so. Seems like church and school and volunterring is important to you and since you only wanted pt, talk to your boss and let them know that you would prefer pt. Give them a timeline of when they need to find someone else to fill in the other hours so you can go part time and if that is not an option, I would give my notice.
Post # 6
You and your DH are a team. Can you not look at it as his money but your money since you are working together? If you can financially do it as a team, cutting down to part time or even taking some time off right now might really help you.
Post # 7
I think you need to tell your job that you can only work part time or find another one that will accomidate you. Roxy is correct though, you and your DH are a team. It’s not his money or your money but it’s both of your money. You are watching the children/child and that is just as much work as any other job out there. The most important thing is to take care of you, otherwise you can’t take care of your kid or anything else that comes along.
Post # 8
Thank you ladies, I plan to talk to my job on Monday apparently they are wanting me for 11pm-7am as well as 7am-3pm, 530am to 3pm and we don’t get breaks and stay on our feet the entire time. Not gonna work, I’m gonna go for part time but if it doesn’t I will put in my notice, the stress it’s putting on my body isn’t good, especially since my hours this week are the 530-3 and we are moving this week as well, I already thought I was worn out, next weekend I’m going to be out like a light the whole weekend