- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Ok, so here’s a little backstory just so that this makes complete sense:
SO and I met 2 years ago when I did study abroad in England. We met on my first full day in the country and have been inseparable (communication-wise) ever since. I moved back to Canada when my schooling ended and have been living here with my parents ever since, paying back my student loan and saving up to move to England with SO. He’s come here to visit me twice and I’ve visited him twice since we started living in separate countries, and we have both known that we will be getting married for over a year now.
I was in England for the holidays and SO and I got to talking about when we would want to get married. SO told me that he wanted to propose now, but he refused to be engaged and living in different countries. His reasoning was that an engagement is supposed to be a really exciting time and that he thinks that having to constantly explain to people that his fiance is in Canada is a massive bummer and would make him depressed thinking about how we aren’t together.
Anyway, SO told me that he’s already planned the proposal and is waiting until we’re living in the same country to actually do it, but told me that I should start planning the wedding. We’ve agreed that getting married in Canada is a better idea because my family is massive (there are 75 family members who I feel need to be at the wedding), whereas he only has 9 people in his family, including extended family. I have basic ideas on what I’d like to do for a wedding because I know SO and my style, and that we’d like something low key and inexpensive. It will be hard to plan a Canadian wedding when I live in England because I won’t be able to visit any venues, talk to anybody or try on dresses and things with my mom or friends. So I see why doing this now is beneficial and could be easier in the long run. On second thought though, I won’t be living with SO until September or October, and he might not propose right away, so the wedding might not happen for 2-3 years still, and that’s too much time for me to be planning one day.
My question for you bees is this: Should I actually start planning a wedding before SO has officially proposed? I feel weird going into bridal boutiques and researching weddings without being able to tell my friends and family how SO proposed, because he hasn’t. Please give me advice!!