Post # 1
UGH, I’m so upset right now. I just need to vent so please brides to be, hear me out.
For at least four months now, FI’s daughter said we could have our small intimate wedding ceremony an reception at her house. We’ve already been at her home, measuring this and that to find out how we are going to install the tables, measuring the stair railing for the decorations, etc. etc. etc, even put down money on the caterer and meeting with the caterer to discuss the venue, the tuxedo dress servers, etc. etc. Now, FI just came home and told me his daughter doesn’t want anyone wearing shoes, not even me, when we hold the ceremony-reception at her house cuz she’s afraid its going to wreck her hardwood floor!!! I remember her asking me if I was going to wear shoes on the day of my wedding and I said of course. I can’t imagine myself in my wedding shoes without shoes or even asking the servers and all the guests not to wear their shoes. I told her there shouldn’t be really any problems with the shoe thing cuz we will most of the time be sitting down and there won’t even be any dancing! This conversation took place at least a month ago. You would think she would have gotten back to me if she had a problem with the shoe situation. I’m so upset right now. I’ve bought all the decorations, done the centerpieces according to how many tables we would have, and so many other details. Now we are stuck having to find another venue and God knows I’ve looked and looked and looked all over this city to find something before we asked her and her FI if we could hold our ceremony-reception at their hosue. I just feel like crying, really. I’m so disappointed and upset at her right now. I really don’t want to have the wedding in a large hall or at a community center or a hotel hall. I guess everything happens for a reason and something better will come up. How would you feel if this would happen to you? I just can’t imagine asking the two professionnal musicians we are booking for the ceremony to ask them to take their shoes off. It just doesn’t make sense and plus I know the servers from the catering business will not want to take the risk of walking around with hot plates and all in their socks. Its just too darn dangerous!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Please talk to me!
Post # 3
Can you put down carpet or something to cover the floor?
Post # 4
omg!!!!!!!!! yes, I’d be INCREDIBLY upset too.
But, you’re right………I would really try to believe that this is for a reason. But……….ugh.
Post # 5
@Lauraine: Cut up some cardboard boxes and tape them down(with painters tape). I was just at the filming of a TV show on location at someone’s house and that’s what they did to protect the floors and walls.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
Your FI’s daughter isn’t a bad person for saying this. I too would worry about this. But, as others have said this can easily be fixed by laying down some kind of floor covering. Don’t stress!! 😀
Post # 7
Is it possible to have it outside in her backyard?
Post # 8
You are all so sweet. Thank you so much for posting. I just got up after a night of no sleep at all or should I say maybe I slept one hour or two. I had this on my mind all darn night. I thought about putting something down on the floor. I think I even remember asking FI a while ago if we could’t put dow some type of carpet. I don’t remember what he said to that but I will mention it again to him tonight. I’ve been thinking all night of all the decorations I’ve bought, even the wedding cake knife, and all the other things that I probably wouldn’t have had to buy if the wedding wasn’t at FI’s house.
Can’t have it in her backyard cuz backyard is too small and not really, really nice at all.
I remember one place I had thought of when we first decided to have the wedding. It was a nice room in an Italian restaurant. I remember calling for info and I think one of the things I didn’t really like was the time we had to leave that venue. But now, knowing a little more how the day will go on, I’m going to call back that placeand maybe the get out time won’t be so bad.
The thing here is also the fact that we had made a budget for this wedding and since we were doing it at FI’s daughter, it was costing a little bit less. So, I’ve been spending elsewhere on things related to the wedding which I probably wouldn’t have if I kenw it wouldn’t be there.
I keep thinking there’s a reason for this grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. I keep thinking how I’m going to react next time I see her. No, I don’t think she’s a bad person but holy marcaron couldn’t she have called me. We always talk. We have a good relationship her and I. She’s getting married for the second time this summer and we were going to get married this summer too but FI preferred us waiting since it was his daughter who announced first that she was getting married. I was a little upset at that too cuz one she’s getting married in Las Vegas and two nobody is going to that wedding. When they will come back, she’s having a get together with all the family, but not at their home but instead at a restaurant-grill thing. Now I know why. Its cuz of the darn floor, once again, but holy crap, why buy such a huge house if you won’t enjoy it cuz you are constantly scared the darn floors are going to get ruined. Crazy!
I think I’m going back to bed for a few hours lol
Post # 9
The title of this post should now read I’M SO HAPPY!
Yes, I’ve found a new venue to hold my small wedding ceremony and reception. After my ste-daughter’s decision not to hold the event at her house unless we all not wear shoes grrrrrrrrrr, I looked and looked and found something a 100 times better than what it would have been like if we had held the event at her house.
I’m so happy. I found a beautiful chic small italian restaurant who has a nice room where we can all sit, have the ceremony, reception, dance if we want to and stay until the wee hours of the morning if we want too. Its exactly, exactly what I was looking for. The atmosphere is kind of all and yet modern because of the renovations that were made to the place and the food is to die for!!
I knew there was a reason why all this crap with the step-daughter had happened. We just got to have faith in this world!
Now, I’m going to the seamstress to try my wedding dress. What a day!
Talk to you all soon.
Chow-chow…. happy cat walking along…heehee
Post # 10
Yea!!! so haapy you found the perfect place!!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It’s okay to be disappointed but at least you found out now when you have plenty of time to make alternate arrangements. Even if everyone takes their shoes off, she sounds like she would still be upset and running around like a crazy person to make sure nobody is damaging her house. Or her mom may not be comfortable with the idea and said something to her and your FI’s daughter doesn’t want to cause waves with her relationship with her mom. If it’s not the floors, it’s that she doesn’t want guests using her bathrooms. Who knows?
Be disappointed for a few days and then start looking for another venue. Since you are having an intimate ceremony and reception, have you thought about looking into private function rooms at local restaurants? That’s what I did with my first wedding and since we guaranteed 60 guests we didn’t even have to pay a room rental fee. I would check around with places that specialize in Christmas functions for small companies.
Post # 12
ajillity81 I’m so happy. I just keep thinking about it. There are French doors with beautiful stained glass and I can just imagine myself waiting behind those doors in my beautiful wedding dress, waiting for the doors to open and to walk on my beautiful aisle runner to join my husband to be! I think I’m going to have a little bit of trouble going to sleep tonight lol
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Yay! Glad it worked out for you!
Post # 14
@KoiKove: +1 yes. This exactly. Hardwoods ain’t cheap, she’s just trying to keep her house nice, I’m sure she’s not trying to offend.
Post # 15
Yes, I agree, she’s probably not trying to offend and I can understand that. She’s not the person who goes around trying to offend people. She’s a very gentle soul but what got me upset is that she waited so long to say she didn’t want anybody wearing shoes in her house. She knew I was buying decorations and preparing for the wedding. That’s what really bothered me. I should have listened to my intuition in the first place and not ask her to hold our wedding at her house but I was so discouraged at not finding a proper venue that her dad and I finally agreed that it probably would be nice to have it at her place. In a few years, I’m sure she will realize how stupid it is not to have people wearing shoes in her house. She probably be the first one to do so. She’s getting married this summer and she’s not even inviting people to celebrate her wedding at her house. She inviting people to go to bar. I think its really sad when you think about it. They bought that house and they won’t show it to anybody just because something might happen to the floors. Sad, but I don’t really care anymore cuz today I found the nost beautiful nice intimate chic venue I was looking for.