Post # 1
I think I finally understand how girls with dress regrets feel…I am having MAJOR photographer regrets, and, unlike a dress, I can’t resell or exchange or return!! I thought it would be a relief when we finally chose a photographer, but now that we have, I am so upset and not sure what to do.
Basically, we only looked at a few photographers first and most were out of our price range or didn’t fit our style. We eliminated all but one who was supernice and willing to work in our budget. We were happy with her in every aspect, EXCEPT I wasn’t in love with her style. It worked, but it wasn’t perfect.
Just to make sure we were making the right choice, we emailed like 10-15 other photographers this weekend. Many of them wrote back immediately saying they were booked or couldn’t work with our budget. So we decided that we shouldn’t be picky on our small budget and booked the one we hand found earlier. But it seems that as soon as we committed to her, I got emails from 3 or 4 other photographers in our price range whose work I like a lot more.
Every time I look at our photographer’s website now I am completely freaking out. I feel like I hate her photos and that we made a horrible choice… Everyone always says how photography is so important, it’s the only thing you have left after the wedding , etc, etc, and I feel like I really messed up.
Post # 3
Is there any way you can get out? Did you already pay a deposit for her services? I was about to go with a photographer when my husband gave me the link to a photographer that one of his coworkers worked with and I changed to that other photographer and I’m so happy that I did. The pictures are a pretty important part of your wedding since that’s what you are going to see from now on.
Post # 4
Because photography is probably one of the most important things, I would see if you could get out of your contract with your current photographer. The last thing you want is photos from your wedding that you don’t like to look at!
Since your wedding is still nine months away, I’m wondering if your photog would be willing to just refund any deposits, or work with you so that you’re not losing a ton of money. Even if she doesn’t, I still think it’s worth it to forfeit the deposit, and go with another photography who’s style you actually like.
This is also coming from a girl who totally splurged on photography, though. It was number one priority, and we paid a ton for it. BUT, we just got our photos back, and they were incredible. Totally worth it.
Post # 5
I would sit on it for a while and and think about whether you really want to make a change. After I booked my photographer I was thinking maybe I wanted something else style wise but then I changed my mind again and decided I liked my photog’s style.
If you really want to change your photog you can except I guess you will be out of your deposit. What specifically does your contract say? My wedding is in Philly also and I really like the photog I booked and I think he is actually underpriced for his talent. If you want information on him let me know.
Post # 7
I would meet first in person with the other photographers that just emailed you. Because the last thing you want is to get out of the contract with the girl you already have that you say is nice and in your price range to work with someone that makes you feel awkward to be around or seems like they might be a jerk.
Post # 8
Did you send a deposit and or fill out a contract? If not, there’s a way out. Photography is very important so you may be able to communicate with her your specific needs or a certain style that you’d like her to use. Try an engagement session with her to see if she’ll be able to do what you need. Do you think you’d have money for a videographer? They’re tough too but then you’d have another visual from your wedding to go to. I hope it works out!
Post # 9
@vintage2010 – that’s exactly what I’m afraid of! Just because they have some amazing photos on their site doesn’t mean that they’ll be able to provide me with 1000 edited photos or that they will be nice or that I will feel comfortable with them.
I think there may be a way out as some of you have said (at worst, I would lose the deposit, but might be able to avoid that), but I guess I’m just not sure if I’m freaking out irrationally or if I really did make a mistake.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
Good service is important, but you should also love your photos.
Chances are, her contract says something about keeping your retainer (it’s not a deposit) unless she can rebook the date. If you’re still pretty far out, she may be very accomodating. Don’t feel too bad… it’s business! Just tell her that you’ve had the chance to book someone you thought was unavailable and you jumped the gun. If she’s supernice, she should be helpful. If she turns evil, just be glad you know now!
Post # 11
Definitely have engagement pictures or something done with the photographer you’ve got booked first if you can. I was in the same position as you and ready to lose my deposit and book a different photographer, but we went on and took our engagement pictures first (it was included in our package). I let our photographer know what kind of pictures I was interested in and he did a great job matching the style I wanted and was fun to work with (even though it’s not what he would do on his own). I went from freaking out to totally calm about our pictures because of this. I think even if I’d hated our engagement pictures I could have still found a different photographer and never worried about if I’d made the wrong decision.