(Closed) So upset about school….

posted 7 years ago in College
Post # 3
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am so sorry about this. I have no idea what class that is but sounds like it sucks. I have adhd and cannot stand anything I am not interested in and have failed a couple classes because I just didn’t finish it. Overall, it makes you feel like poo though like you should be able to do this!  I think that you shoudl see if you can retake it later and do other classes right now that you can feel confident in, excited. I think you should try to get your bachelors no matter what-you could always see if you can connect with an extra tutor to help you? Perhaps it’s the anxiety that is creating the stress in not being able to write enough for your final essays? I felt so alone sometimes in school…although I really want to go back, I am scared because of these types of experiences you are having. Hugs. 

Post # 4
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Aw I am so sorry, that must be incredibly frustrating. I took several classes online and always did slightly worse in them than my “go sit in class” classes for whatever reason. I just wanted to say that when you take it again, you should ask the bee for some topic advice and whatnot. I, for one, would be willingly to help you edit your paper (that’s my job) to help you out. I hope you feel better soon.

Post # 5
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ugh, this is why I am super skeptical of online universities. In a real college, like the one I teach at, I could have a student in your situation come to my office hours, sit down, and talk about what your particular challenges are with a given assignment.  You just can’t do that with online classes.

Sorry, I know this doesn’t help you, but I feel so frustrated on your behalf! You should be able to have a professor and a college writing center to help you with this.  In lieu of that, can you find a tutor to help you with the subjects that are the hardest?

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee

I know I always did worse in my online classes… Maybe you could take a similar/equivalent class at the local community college and then transfer the credit? I’m not sure what the rules of your university are, but that could be an option.


If not, then I’d say definitely hire a tutor or a friend who’s a talented writer to help. Sometimes, I need someone to look over my essays and point out areas where I can further elaborate on my ideas.

Good luck!

Post # 8
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@xshellx2003: There’s nothing wrong with you going to your HS to look for tutors. I bet your local high school has a Mathletes or a National Honor Society or other student organization that would be willing to help you. You could even do this on a local college/community college campus.

If your writing skills need work, I would suggest doing the same. I teach writing, but it would be incredibly difficult doing so online. Looking for in-person help is probably your best bet.

Post # 9
38 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

I understand the frustration with online schooling; sometimes it can be a bit stressful. I’ve done my Masters and am now in my Doctoral program; both online.


I am not sure what program you are using but most have an online “library” where you can get resources for the exact situation you’re describing. The local on ground office might offer tutors as well or workshops to help with the specific topics you are struggling to understand. Writing and math labs are available through UOP and I’ve heard other schools offer them as well. Have you accessed these services?


I think being online sometimes translates into being in a vaccum. I realized this early on and created connections with fellow classmates. My Masters I spoke every day almost to man in Hawaii. We did the entire program together with the exception of the last few classes. I spent oodles of time with him and never met him. I was a stronger writer and he was stronger with math elements; I’d edit and he’d walk me through questions with stats. Reach out to your fellow classmates and remember you can always call your academic counselor. I even have called professors to ask them questions. They have always been thrilled to talk to with me and offer suggestions. Reaching out to the provided resources may be a way to help you from feeling so stressed and alone.


Academic rigor is required online or on the ground so if you are struggling with the topic online; it is likely you’d struggle on ground too. Remember though, you are paying for those services and the instructors salaries— they are there to help you. If possible, I’d see if you could take some other classes that will help build your confidence up before going back to these classes. Additionally, because the program is online, the focus on writing about what you’re learning is essential. Checking out some of the university online tutorials on writing and visiting the local ground campus ( if possible) for assistance might be ways to help you feel more confident as you move through the program.


Additionally, if you are struggling with the writing and can’t get to the local on ground program, try looking at a basic “how to write a college paper” tutorial online. If you think about how to set it up, the arguements you need, the material necessary for support, the thesis, and the thoughts behind the paper–you can look at how many sources you need to provide the necessary material. This may provide you with a larger pool of information to build your ideas around, thus creating a longer paper.


Good luck! Don’t get discouraged. You’ll be able to do it; my first day of my Masters program, I turned on the computer looked at my class and started to cry. I was panicked and sure I’d never be able to do it. After crying to my folks, they said to go back and look at it step by step. Once I focused on the small steps then I could get through. Try the same thing; focus on getting as many of the weekly points possible to provide the cushion when you have the writing assignments until you feel more comfortable writing.



Post # 10
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry. I agree that you should go to a physical school.  make time for it.  Sorry I know this prob isn’t the advice you want but online dosn’t seem to be working.  Online classes are harder since at least for me it is less motivating and with no peers or a professor to see it is very frustrating.  I took an online TEFL certification class and I passed it but it was way harder than I thought it would be especially to get motivated since I was just at home and not phsically somehwere else. 

Plus a physical school has many facilities such as a writing center and library and professors have office hours to help you.

Consider it an investment into your future.

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