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I moved out of my mom's house in September, and our deal was that she would take care of my old tabby cat Sammy until I had my own place in the spring, and then I would take him with me. She told me back in January that he had gotten really sick and she had to put him down. I was very upset over this, but I had some time to grieve and was starting to not be as sad anymore.

Well I've just found out that she didn't put him to sleep, she got my older brother to just drop him off on the side of the road somewhere!!!!!! WTF!? I am so unbelievably upset right now, he is an old declawed cat, who was abandoned in the middle of a city, in the middle of winter. I can't stop thinking about him and if he's okay, or if he's even still alive. I'd go back and look around for him, and at least put posters up, but not only was this almost a month ago, I'm in a different town an hour away and don't have a car. I've looked on humane society pages, looked through kijiji and craigslist, but no mention of a found cat fitting his description.

I am so upset. I can't believe my mother would do something so insanely cruel.

@meliss: He was getting older and had worms frequently, but he's never been legitimetely sick. She never liked him because he was moody and tempermental, and used the floor as a bathroom once every week or so. This really bothered her, and I get that cleaning up cat crap isn't ideal for anyone, but does it really warrant abandonment?!

He was my baby. I adopted him when he was 4, he had been a rescue cat taken out of an abusive home. I've had him for close to 7 years.

I really don't think I can ever forgive her for this.

@noritake22: No, never. She is normally a sweetheart and is very kind. It is completely out of the norm for her to act this way. Two weeks ago when I was visiting home, my sister and her friends made a joke about how Sammy was now living in "***** park", but I honestly thought they were just joking. I asked my mom about it to make sure, but she went back to the euthanasia story. I've just now found out he really was abandoned, and she's been lying to me.

It's 4am, but as soon as I wake up in the morning I'm calling her to confirm. If she keeps lying about it, I honestly don't know what to do with her. After that, I'm calling the shelters and vets in the area. Unfortunately he isn't chipped and doesn't wear a collar (he had one but hated wearing it, plus he was an indoor cat so we never thought he really needed one) but I'm going to beg a friend who lives in the town to put up a few posters in the area he was dropped.

I don't think I'll find him, but I'm hoping and praying some nice family rescued him from the streets and he's warm and fed and well-looked after.

@Soon2beeMrsM: No! I called twice, no answer. I refuse to do this over text. 

I tried calling shelters and vets but I just got machines. It's family day, so either they're not open or they were just busy when I called. I'll try again tomorrow.

OMG I a so sorry Gingersnap :(. I hope you find your kitty. Sends you hug!!!

@UpstateCait: I KNOW! That was my first reaction - she must've known I would have taken him off her hands in a heartbeat. I wanted to wait until FI and I had our own place (we live with 4 other people right now), but if I had known this was the consequence of waiting.. I definitely would've brought him with me.

I'm so sorry you're going through this! 

I noticed you said that "She is normally a sweetheart and is very kind. It is completely out of the norm for her to act this way."  I obviously don't know anything about your mother, but if she's acting differently than normal, it may be worth considering if she needs an evaluation by a medical professional. 

@daydreamwanderer: I found out via facebook, of all things. My little sister had a wall-to-wall conversation with one of her friends about it.