Post # 1
I have been planning my wedding from afar for over a year now. We just got engaged so I got right on my venue and have already gone in for their open house/tasting (which took place today) I was soooooooooooo excited..and oh no! The food was..not good. I am not a terribly picky eater and neither is FI but I was soo sad about it. I had to force myself to chew some of the things 🙁 Then I came back to work (We run a service business together, heavy weekend business, so we both couldn’t go at the same time…) then FI took off and went to go taste the food and drinks. He came back so upset too (I hadn’t told him what I thought, we decided to discuss it together after). He said, “I don’t know how to tell you this, but I’m not spending all that money on that food. It was terrible” See, the bill for venue, food and drinks alone will be 12,000! We both agree that we would be okay with the quality of food if the bill was lower, like around 8000..so now we’re looking at changing our date to maybe a Sunday or Friday in any other month that isn’t JUNE 🙁 whic makes me SO sad because I loved my date 6/8/2013…it would be exactly 3.5 years from the day we met 🙁 I really love everything about this venue and have always wanted to get married there… I am just sooo sad the food was just not good at all. To make matters worse, they do not offer private tastings, only at the open house they host a few times a year. We need to book the venue before their next open house (Which is Sept) They also didn’t have all of their menu items out today, only half or so, so we couldn’t try everything (including some of the items we were thinking we’d want..)
Anyway… I am pretty upset about it because FI is pretty positive he will not spend 12000$ on that.
This is in Missouri so 12000 for just the venue + food/drinks is pretty pricey!
I think I’m already thinking about canceling the wedding because of the stress and anxiety it has caused me already.. I am such an amateur! We have the money… FI makes well into the 6 figure mark (and well, I don’t.. but that’s okay) and my dad is gifting us with 20,000 for the wedding…we own a house, have 3 cars, have savings… But we have bigger plans. We want to open another location of our business or move out of state to where my entire family lives….(very expensive real estate..)
I’m just venting 🙁
Post # 3
why would you want to spend that kind of money on a place where the food is bad?? Not worth it, and since it was an open house it was probably done better then it would be on your wedding day, move on 12000 for just a venue is so SILLLY especially when the food sucks!!!
Post # 4
If the venue won’t let you bring in your own caterer and reduce the rental, I’d find another venue. Food that sucks in June is still going to suck in November, and your guests won’t know it’s any cheaper; they’ll just know it sucks.
Post # 5
Did you already book/sign a contract? Get in touch with the venue and tell them that you were disappointed and want to cancel. See if they’ll offer a private tasting with your specific menu, or allow you to bring in a caterer of your choice. Be sure to tell Ben all of the reasons why you chose their venue in the first place, and it they’re willing to work wih you to ensure quality then great! If not, try to get as much of your deposit back as possible and move on.
Post # 6
I agree, find a new venue. Just because you change the date, doesnt mean the food will get any better :/
Post # 7
As a guest, i remember the food much more than the venue. I’d change it while you still have time. It really sucks that you cen’t taste what you are actually interested in. That sounds pretty weird to me!
Post # 8
I know this may sound nuts but tell them the food is bad. Tell them you love the venue, and were going to book it but could barely force yourself to eat the food. Don’t be rude, and approach it completely calmly. If they are worth anything as a caterer they will give you a private tasting. If the food is bad you will just have to move on to a new venue, and believe me good food is so worth it in the end
Post # 9
If the food is not good and the price is too high then just find another one. I don’t mean to be rude or anything but you are just at the beginning stages and if you are ready to give up now then you might now be able to handle the other aspects of planning. It’s not the end of the world you have time to find a place you like better with better food.
Post # 11
I guess I should’ve clarified and said that I was probably exaggerating a little about how notsogood the food was. I mean it wasn’t SOOO terrible but I think we just had sticker shock for 12,000 we thought..man we better be getting some REALLY AWESOME food, like Mortons steak or something (I know, silly, but I’m new to this…)..and well, it wasn’t really awesome. It was a let down but I’m not too sure that anywhere else would really be that much better. The 12000 also covers the ceremony, and all the chairs and everything else, including a lot of extras. This venue is rated extremely high and every (honest) review and blog I have read, raves about the food so I literally thought there would be no issue. Perhaps I am more picky than I thought…?There are even some bees on here who said it was good. I don’t want to post what venue is it. When I told the wedding coordinator that we didn’t like the food, she was shocked and said everyone raves about the food. She was extremely nice (THANK GOODNESS!!) and she then said they would be happy to work with me, and are open to suggestions (IE, we can ask for what we want to be made..) and she already gave me some extra suggestions that currently arent on the menu but that the chef has made in the past. This made me feel so much better! She is going to talk with the chef and get back to me.
I know that if the food sucks, it’s gonna suck no matter what time of year. I guess I just meant… it’s not worth spending that much money on it..It’s just “wedding food” It’s nothing special. I don’t think anyone is going to be like “holy crap! that was the worst food I have ever had” but they aren’t going to say it’s the best either, y’know? I’d rather have the same food/drink for substantially cheaper on a different day..and I could spend the money on something else that is related to my guests satisfaction. The date I was quoting for is a Saturday in June which is PRIME wedding time and they charge accordingly.. I don’t blame them…It’s just that I can have the exact same wedding for 1000s cheaper any other Saturday of the year..and at this point, I think that’s the way to go.
Sorry my post was a wee bit dramatic but thanks for listening. 🙂
Post # 12
Well, we had the same reaction to our venue. When we did the tasting it was just ok. We felt like food snobs since we were from NYC and our venue was in New Hampshire. The couple next to us rave about how good the food was. Anyway, on the day of the wedding the food was delicious. Not the most awesome food but pretty good.
We think it’s cuz teh venue is use to doing large groups so it was only subpar when they were doing one or two for tasting. The same happened the other way fro my friend’s wedding. Her food was AMAZING for the tasting but since it was at a resaurant they weren’t use to doing big groups and the food was subpar on the day of.
Just a thought.