Post # 1
So I’m very angry today and I am sorry that the punctuation in this post will not be correct but I need to vent to someone my fiancé my adoring Peter Pan suffering syndrome having fiancé just took part of a large part of our wedding budget savings to go buy A ps4 for a PlayStation four can you believe it and am I and my crazy even if he puts the money back to be angry I’m so frustrated and I don’t know what to do. I’m just so upset instead of saving money he’s spending money and he’s spending my money that I’m saving for a wedding at the same time I’ve talk to him about this and he keeps saying that he’s going to put it back but when? Frustrated very very angry .
Post # 3
Ooof, this is the second PS4 related post I have seen today; that thing is bad news.
I think a long talk is in order.
Post # 4
@TashandWil: Well make him sacrifice something that he wanted for the wedding until he puts the money back? Not sure what else you can do at this point.
Post # 5
@TashandWil: You said it is your money. If that’s the case, don’t give him access to it. I’d definitely make sure to be on the same page about finances before marriage though.
Post # 6
I’d definitely make sure to be on the same page about finances before marriage though.
Post # 7
YIKES! You have every right to be pissed, I would be livid!! That PS4 would go back immediately, even though you will still be mad because he still did it. Thats absolutely not ok, maybe you need to have a discussion about wedding plans not moving adead anymore until he can be your partner and not make extra work for you so he can have toys! I’m sorry he did that 🙁
Post # 8
I’d tell him it better go back to the store now…simply and calmly. Any big purchases or withdrawal of savings must be discussed BEFORE spending the money.
Post # 9
I’d be furious, too! I’m sorry he’s spending your wedding fund irresponsibly!
Post # 10
@TashandWil: that’s very frustrating. All big purchases made with joint money should be discussed and agreed on together. I think a sit down to discuss finances and how you will manage them is in order. It’s best to sort those money matters out before the wedding.
Post # 11
@TashandWil: Oh first off I am so sorry that happened to you. Second I can totally sympathize with you as my ex-fi did the same thing when the PS3 came out. I was ready to strangle him. He did put the money back but it took him quite a few months to do it. I let him have the damned thing to himself for a good week before he was at my parent’s house begging me to come home. I let him keep the damned thing but not before he made a deposit to our acct. I hope yours works out better then mine did! HUGS!
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: it is a joint account but I’ve been saving money in that account six months longer than him and we’ve only been engaged for eight months I am just highly frustrated that this game is so much more important then our wedding I don’t even know how to talk to him right now
Post # 13
We do need to have another long talk about finances because here is the kicker this bundle pack cost $980 I don’t even have my engagement ring yet which is supposed to be coming to me whenever he can afford the ring that he feels I deserve I’m just a little miffed but we definitely need to have a talk when he walks into the house with that damn thing.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@TashandWil: Ok… if you have been saving 2 months longer than him and you don’t have an e-ring yet… and he went out and bought this without my approval, I would feel very slighted. It would definitely make me question his seriousness and dedication. I wouldn’t trust him with a joint bank account anymore. Make him get his own account, and if he cannot save for the engagment ring or wedding then you should walk. People don’t magically transform into savers when they’re married…
Post # 15
OMG I would have shit bricks. Things would not be pretty at my house if this happened.
Post # 16
Me and fi have an understanding.. he doesn’t make ANY larger purchases [$50+] without talking to me first. Normally, we discuss how much the item is, how much use we’ll get out of it, and what we could better spend the money on.
In no way would it be okay if he took $900+ of our wedding budget and spent it on a stupid game [esp. one that will be WAY cheaper in a year or so].
No no no.