So very f@cking angry

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ooof, this is the second PS4 related post I have seen today; that thing is bad news.

I think a long talk is in order.

Post # 4
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@TashandWil:  Well make him sacrifice something that he wanted for the wedding until he puts the money back?  Not sure what else you can do at this point.

Post # 5
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@TashandWil:  You said it is your money. If that’s the case, don’t give him access to it. I’d definitely make sure to be on the same page about finances before marriage though. 

Post # 6
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d definitely make sure to be on the same page about finances before marriage though. 

@MrsPanda99:  +1000000

Post # 7
1634 posts
Bumble bee

YIKES! You have every right to be pissed, I would be livid!! That PS4 would go back immediately, even though you will still be mad because he still did it. Thats absolutely not ok, maybe you need to have a discussion about wedding plans not moving adead anymore until he can be your partner and not make extra work for you so he can have toys! I’m sorry he did that 🙁

Post # 8
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’d tell him it better go back to the store now…simply and calmly. Any big purchases or withdrawal of savings must be discussed BEFORE spending the money.

Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be furious, too! I’m sorry he’s spending your wedding fund irresponsibly!

Post # 10
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TashandWil:  that’s very frustrating. All big purchases made with joint money should be discussed and agreed on together. I think a sit down to discuss finances and how you will manage them is in order. It’s best to sort those money matters out before the wedding.

Post # 11
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@TashandWil:  Oh first off I am so sorry that happened to you. Second I can totally sympathize with you as my ex-fi did the same thing when the PS3 came out. I was ready to strangle him. He did put the money back but it took him quite a few months to do it. I let him have the damned thing to himself for a good week before he was at my parent’s house begging me to come home. I let him keep the damned thing but not before he made a deposit to our acct. I hope yours works out better then mine did! HUGS!

Post # 14
6785 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@TashandWil:  Ok… if you have been saving 2 months longer than him and you don’t have an e-ring yet… and he went out and bought this without my approval, I would feel very slighted. It would definitely make me question his seriousness and dedication. I wouldn’t trust him with a joint bank account anymore. Make him get his own account, and if he cannot save for the engagment ring or wedding then you should walk. People don’t magically transform into savers when they’re married…

Post # 15
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

OMG I would have shit bricks. Things would not be pretty at my house if this happened. 

Post # 16
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Holllly goodness.

Me and fi have an understanding.. he doesn’t make ANY larger purchases [$50+] without talking to me first. Normally, we discuss how much the item is, how much use we’ll get out of it, and what we could better spend the money on.

In no way would it be okay if he took $900+ of our wedding budget and spent it on a stupid game [esp. one that will be WAY cheaper in a year or so].

No no no.

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