- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So I finally told my parents that we don’t want them to help pay, basically because they said we were getting married but they were doing the wedding. Some people may be ok with this, it is a old fashion notion that the mother plans the wedding. Well I don’t want that kind of wedding, I want my wedding to scream me and my FH. I want everyone there to know that this was our vision. So we told them to tell us what money they had put down and we would pay them back and we would pay for it so it could be our wedding. Well my mom got really mad, apparently me wanting the wedding of my dreams and not hers is so very offensive of me. I understand that if you are putting money in you get a say but I don’t feel you can make the finally decision other than, that is over budget, when helping with someone else’s wedding and if you think you do and the Bride doesn’t and then says well then let me have my wedding with my money don’t get mad at her. I am so very tired of fighting and just tired of being unhappy about wedding planning. I had dreamed of planning my wedding for ages, I love to plan parties and thought this would be the ultimate one I could plan and it became a constant battle to have touches of me and my FH in my own wedding. Now she is asking if I am making her look to the venders, because yes I am going to air all my dirty laundry to random people. I am going to tell them that we are now in charge of paying for the wedding so they contact us when they need a payment but really do I need to tell them that you have become overbearing and controlling. I just really think I am going to not speak with her for a while. It will probably do us both some good. I will not have to deal with the constant put downs and off handed comments and she will understand that the put downs and off handed comments might not be a good thing. Anyway sorry I am writing a novel. I don’t really think I am asking anything, just needed to vent and get all of this off my chest. I really just want to get over this hurdle and get them out of wedding planning so it can be fun again.