SO wants me to m ake nice with his mom.ahh!!!

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SO wants me to m ake nice with his mom.ahh!!!

posted 2 years ago in Relationships

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Blushing bee

bird December 15, 2013 caribbean

well for those who dont kn my story me and my SO have been togther for 3.2 yrs. Tomorrow will be 2yrs since we are living togther.am from another country (caribbean)and moved to his country because of him when a position opened up at work.currently we live upstaires his mom.it is a totally separate housing system and i basically have no contact with his mom now.we havnt always gotten along .she always have somthing smart to say ands always blames me for everything that her son wont do for her .in honesty he does put me first and sticks up for me all the time (she acts like he is her husband and is entitled.

so here is my dilema todaY SO TELLS ME THAT he wants me and his mom to get along and that it is really bothering him that we arnt getting along.he also said that she would have to watch or kid when we have a child(am not pregnat and have an iud in)i also have no family here but him. in truth i dont caRe if i ever speak to her again so long as i dont have to see her ,but i kn it would mean alot to him if we got along.the thought of speaking to her doest sit well with me but if she is willing to get along i would consider it.but honestly i still for now have some resentment for her.she always talks about me with her sisters and u guys can bet its nothing good she has to say.

he took her out now and said he was going to talk to her,so i guess i will kn what she says when they get back.

anyone thinks he wont propose if we dont get along(iasked if him proposing depended on us getting along and he said no) but u never kn. (he has had the ring for almost two years)read my other post

thanks for listening to my rant .any advice on how to get past my resentment would be appreciated.

thanks bird

2 years ago

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Helper bee

MichelleMyBell August 13 2010 London, Ontario CA

What exactly did she do (other than talking behind your back)? If it's just talk then... I hate to say this... that's pretty much normal with MILs and I think you're going to have to offer the olive branch and try to get along. It doesn't mean you have to be best friends, but he's right that you need to have a functional relationship if you're going to join her family.

2 years ago

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Bumble bee

GirlWithARing September 5, 2010 Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

Yeah, she sounds like a typical mother in law to me. Most of them are like that :)

For me personally, I know when FMIL encouraged FI to marry me, that was sort of the last push he needed to propose. It would have happened regardless but probably taken longer.

2 years ago