Post # 1
Basically what the title says. SO wants to buy me something nice this Christmas (not super extravagent though) and I have no idea what to tell him. I’ve got all the clothes I could ever need, I’m not big into hand bags, I need shoes but I really need to be able to try them on (not to mention I’m really picky on styles), and I don’t need or want any electronics (besides a new laptop, but that’s out of our price range).
I’m not big on wearing jewelry, either; the only thing I wear regularly is my promise ring. I thought about asking him to upgrade that (we won’t be engaged for AT LEAST another year, I don’t think), since mine is a dingy cheap thing that he bought in high school, but I’m kind of attached to it and I kinda want the next ring on that finger to be my engagement ring, so I’m torn.
*Sigh* What do I do bees? I have a Christmas list (a fairly hefty one) but I don’t think anything on my list tops $20 or $25 (besides a new winter coat, but I know that’s gonna come from my dad).
Post # 3
I’m in the same boat and my bf keeps asking me what I want constantly lol. Do you have any hobbies that he could get you supplies for like cooking, painting, etc? Or can you think of anything that you’ve seen & liked but you just wouldn’t buy for yourself?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@ForeverBirds: A night (or weekend) at a nice hotel with dinner. We prefer to give each other gifts that create memories rather than buying actual physical gifts.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@ForeverBirds: Furniture? Something from Victoria’s Secret?? <– I asked my DH for a bra and panty matching set of his choice because I won’t splurge that much on undergarments but would LOVE to have them.
If you really can’t think of anything tell him to put it towards the E Ring so you can get that sooner 🙂
Post # 6
I’d go with an experience –
night at a hotel and dinner at a restaurant you’ve always wanted to try.
tickets to a play/musical
tickets to a concert
weekend trip to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go
Post # 7
I know it’s not exactly romantic, but are there any electronics you want? Or maybe something for your home that you wouldn’t normally splurge on like really expensive sheets?
Post # 8
I asked my FI to start me a Pandora bracelet and then I also gave him a crazy huge list of all the other stuff I want.
I like what PP are saying about a weekend away together or maybe concert tickets?
Post # 9
@ForeverBirds: Maybe you can let him take you shoe shopping. It could be a great date! Personally, I could use a few shoes plus a watch or two.
Post # 10
We give each other things like a night in a hotel or a nice dinner out. This year I’m buying both of our plane tickets to visit some friends in San Francisco in March. It’s a win/win for both of us!
This year, I really want a new iPad (mine crashes like every 10 seconds), but I know it ain’t gonna happen (FI’s in school). But if I was in your situation, that’s what I’d ask for!
Post # 11
@beachbride1216: +1 to the getaway idea!
How romantic for him to plan a weekend away! THat would be my choice since you don’t want/need much else – anything else would be a bonus!
Post # 12
@KimmySumShuga: I would LOVE a weekend away, but I doubt we’ll have that kind of money. We were talking about a weekend trip sometime in the spring anyways.
@mchitt329: I like the idea of putting it towards an engagement ring but the issue there isn’t money; we’d like to be out of my parent’s house before we get engaged (we’re living with them while I go to the local college to take advantage of free education and the chance to pay off our car). Really there’s not a lot we could really afford. I need to ask him what he has in mind for “nice”- it could be anywhere from $50-$200. (With me not working sometimes it feels like just having the money for McDonald’s is splurging lol)
Post # 13
@ForeverBirds: I love the idea of an experience or creature comforts. Mmm comfy sheets. I would have squealed like a little girl and totally loved it if my college BF had gotten me $150 sheets. Such a luxury for a poor college kid!
Post # 14
Men tend to learn by experience… so what you do with this generous offer could make a HUGE difference in the future.
If you say nothing… he’ll more than likely internalize that… and not offer again.
If you decide to get something non personal… you may find yourself receiving “housewares” for special occasions the rest of your life.
In either of the above scenarios you could find yourself 5 years down the road saying my guy is horrible gift giver, and I dread the holidays !!
Truth is Men are not mind readers they go with what works for them
So you might want to sit down, and take the time to come up with a serious list of things you’d like / appreciate that are personal
Lol, this is where the Sears Catalogue could come in handy for inspiration (they still have those in America right ?)
Find things you like / love. Give him a few ideas. And then be extremely happy when he gets it right. Be sure and emphasize the THANK YOU
And there you have it … good gift giving routine established… forever in the future he’ll have you make a list. Not a bad thing… so much better than the countless numbers of GFs and Wives who get useless junk from their SOs and just don’t know what to say…
Hope this helps,
Post # 15
@This Time Round: makes an excellent point. You don’t want to set a bad precedence.
Post # 16
@This Time Round: This is a good point. Luckily SO and I have established a rule that at least one present has to be just because. Nothing practical, no dishes or appliances, etc. My dad has done this to my mom for years and she hates it but feels bad saying anything because technically she DID (at some point) make a comment about how she’d love to have a new set of silverware/a new mop/a new crock pot. He does try but my poor dad is clueless about being romantic.