Post # 1
And I am beyond nervous. As of August 1, 2011, I will not be living alone any longer. I am so worried Bees, I have shared some doubts with him, but I am unable to relay the full capacity of my feelings. Some help here Bees, what should I expect? Can I get some advice???
Post # 3
It’s hard at first getting used to each other’s habits. I would make sure you each have your own space to go to for some alone time when needed. It will be okay, it just takes some adjusting to learn to share!
Post # 4
I agree with @MissAsB. But most of all, go in with an open mind. And have fun! It’s a ton of fun living with your SO..you will get so close!
Post # 5
@Bellagiobride: OMG, you read my mind!! My FH and I are moving in together next Monday, and I am SUPER nervous! I’m not nervous about if he’s the one or our relationship; I’m just nervous about living with someone I’m with. I’ve had guy roommates before, so I’m used to the cleanliness level lol. I’ve been feeling so nervous since we put down a deposit, and I’ve tried to tell him, but I can’t get the right words out. Glad to know I’m not alone!
Post # 6
We will need to support each other!!! I know he’s the one, so that is not why I’m nervous. It is just the idea of living with the love of my life. I know it will be fun, like a permanent slumber party ;-), but I can’t help being nervous. I know many have been in my shoes before, but it just feels like the days are flying by!!!
Post # 7
@Bellagiobride: Definitely! I tried explaining my nerves to him, but I don’t think he really understood. He said he gets it, but we all know that’s probably not true lol. I’m nervous for the same reasons as you. I have until Monday! Since this went by fast, I can only imagine how time will fly by and then it will our wedding..yikes! lol
Post # 8
Honestly, communication and good sense of humor (for both of you). With these three things it will all go smoothly.
Enjoy the nerves and the excitement while they last! 🙂
Post # 9
Our big problem was communication! We didn’t want to step on each others toes, so we didn’t say anything that we had issues with to each other. And then we almost broke up. Luckily we were able to talk it out and haven’t had an issue since.
Post # 10
Moving in with a SO is no different than living with a roommae.
I would sit and make lists of several things before tempers flare and frustrations build
Who is reposible for? (I know this looks silly, but really peoples expectations of each other and themselves vary grealy no matter how much you think you know them!!!)
Cleaning? What is your level of cleanliness vs your SO? Does one cook and the other do dishes? Does dishes include washing the floor?
How often do things need to be done? Like toilet, tub.
What are your preferences in terms of personal space. Do you need 30 minutes when you get home before you think about talking or eating or doing a chore? Or do you not want to talk in the morning while you get ready.
What are your feelings on one using the bathroom while someone showers.
Do you expect to eat together everynight? Are you going to be mad if your SO continually eats a snack so they arent that hungry for dinner?
Post # 11
I moved in with FI a month ago and I know this sounds crazy, but it’s been pretty smooth. He’s so easygoing and we’ve spent enough time in each others’ space that there haven’t been any big surprises. For whatever reason, I’ve been extra emotional, and though I’m not sure it has anything to do with moving in together, I think it’s related. Everything just seems more real. Probably it has helped a lot that I moved in with him rather than the other way around, because I am way more territorial than he is.
Apparently, the thing about adjusting to the other person’s habits is pretty common, but I have to say, I haven’t noticed any of that. I think we’ve just spent enough time doing our normal-ish routines around each other that there’ve been no big surprises.
I do know what you’re saying about not being able to get across your worries to him. If you can, try to take it as a source of comfort, that he’s so sure about this that he can’t even get his head around the idea that there’s something to be worried about. It can be a little infuriating, but I’m finding it’s good to have one of us not freaking out. Keep breathing, keep talking, give yourself space, you will be fine.
Post # 12
All I can say is it is much different than having a roommate…and more fun!! Just know how you are going to handle household things such as chores, and everything else should be good. We had so much fun in our first apartment.
Post # 13
I wholeheartedly agree with splitting up household chores. Make sure you have your own little corner of space, if not a whole room, a desk, reading nook, etc. Don’t forget to spend time with your family and friends–it’s easy to do when you’re just starting out “playing house.”