Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
FI and I have come up with a sort of unique solution to the last name dilemma. Basically, I wanted us to have the same last name since we’ll be a new family unit, but I wasn’t comfortable with taking his name, or him taking mine. We weren’t crazy about hyphenating because it would sound sort of sing-songy. So we decided we’d just pick a new last name. We tried combining the sounds of our current names but they are both similar enough (both end in -man) that there’s not much of a change. So we’re coming up with a new last name. Our top 3 choices were Danger, Pumpernickle, and Manleigh. We’ve pretty much decided to go with Manleigh. So my question is, I know it’s more paperwork, etc to change to a different name than it is to change to your husband’s name, but has anyone ever gone through the process? Any tips? I know once it’s changed legally we need to update with SSA, DMV, etc etc, but not sure where to start the process. Has anyone ever done this? Or changed your first name, something like that? Do you think we’re completely nuts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2018 - the oak tree of peover
@soontobeMrsBoo: oh wow, that’s so strange. me and my FI have decided on the same solution for exactly the same reasons, and one of our choices is Manley given my surname ends in ‘-man’ (and his ‘-ley’).
i’m not much help RE: changing everything as i’m hunting around on here trying to find those answers myself, but i did read that it might be easier if he first updates his name via deed-poll and then you take the surname as is usually done for marriage. although, i am in the uk and things might be different here so that may not be any use to you at all! 🙂
Post # 4
I’m meeting more and more couples doing this – very cool.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
totally no help at all- but I’m definitely giving my future son the middle name Danger… so he can say “Danger is my middle name, baby.”
also, I go by my middle name, and would like to switch my first & middle names when i get married (when i’m also changing my last name) and wonder how difficult that process would be, if its even worth it. Maybe i’ll also get some insight from this thread!
Post # 6
I have no tips but I think that’s a really great solution! 🙂 You’re not nuts, you’re awesome 🙂
Post # 7
I think its a little nuts but it seems to work for your situation! Just make sure that if you’re planning on having a family that you make a record of your name changes and make copies etc so that if in future they/grandchildren etc want to do a family tree they dont get to a dead end when they get to you two! Or perhaps start a family tree yourself so that there’s some evidence of a life before you!