Post # 1
Our wedding has been 3 years in the making (almost 4). We got engaged 4 years ago in August and started planning shortly after…long story short we decided to put things on hold because we became overwhelmed with all of the expectations & “rules” coming from friends, family, AND VENDORS. But, we had plans in the works barn reception, rustic feel, purple BM dresses, and I bought my beautiful lace dress with straps.
Over the past week people have been asking questions and I’ve been sharing out vision…it seems like everyone I talk to says “Oh lace dresses are so in. My cousin wore one just like yours with straps” “everyone’s bridesmaids wear purple these days” “barn weddings are so popular”
I almost want to cry! I am glad people are accepting of our vision for our day, but I hate the idea that its “been there and done that”.
…those mason jars I hauled out of my grandmothers basement 3 years ago, cleaned up, and made hangers for. Apparently, there allover the internet. I didn’t know this even existed when I started.
I’d love to think I’m a trend setter, but really I’m just sad 🙁
Post # 3
Don’t be sad. Your wedding should be a reflection of you and your FI’s tastes. If you want purple bm dresses, a lace gown, and mason jars all the more power to you. I personally love weddings with rustic, home made detials.
Post # 4
It doesn’t matter! Even if those things are popular, there is a lot of variety out there and your wedding will still have things about it that are unique.
Post # 5
Remember that things that are “all over the internet” are not necessarily all over where you live.
The only thing that matters is that you have made the choices that you love.
Just think of it this way-white wedding dresses are all over too but most of us still have one.It doesn’t mean that we aren’t original.
Post # 6
Although you might feel like you wedding will be ‘been there, done that’ I think it will be a reflection of who you are as a couple. There are so many combos of trends and unique touches that no two weddings will ever be alike. I bet all of your guests will still feel like it is a one of a kind wedding.
As long as you are choosing things that you love and think are beautiful that’s all that really matters. Don’t sweat the stuff, easier said than done (I do know this)
Post # 7
Somewhere I read or heard something that makes total sense: all of these trends that you’re seeing are all over the Internet. But most of your guests probably don’t frequent wedding blogs like you and I do. I have to keep reminding myself of that. Mason jars and barn weddings feel overdone because you see them every day online. But similar to what julies1949 said, it’s unlikely that your guests have seen all of it.
And even if they have, so what! They haven’t seen those things yet at YOUR wedding, right?
Post # 8
FI had a really good point he said “If we were having a reception in the big local banquet hall and served penne, chicken, and mini potatoes we would really be doing what everyone else did and no one would say anything.”
So, he’s probably right the only reason why we’re still hung up on this is because we thought we were being so out there and original. I also think our day stands out in peoples minds more than “traditional” elements would so people remember them better
Post # 9
Don’t be sad! I’d love to come to your wedding! Sounds like a great time!
Post # 10
Hmm.. those things aren’t done in my area pretty much at all. My rustic garden theme with masons is different for most of my guests.. but I live in a big city so maybe thats why? And who are all these purple bridesmaids? I look at stuff here on the bee all the time and rarely see them. And WHERE can you buy masons on the internet besides individuals with private collections for sale?
Don’t worry, its not as bad as you think it is. Its your special day anyways 🙂
Post # 11
Ok, so it’s not original. Who cares! It will however, probably be original to your guests, even if it doesn’t seem like that. Do you know that at my wedding 6 months ago people thought a candy buffet was original !?!? ya well we all know it isn’t, but for them it was new.
Post # 12
It will be absolutely perfect. I have been involved in the planning over 75 weddings and have only helped with 2 barn weddings. One was an older farming couple, second marriage (both widowed) with a $600 budget so don’t think it counts. It isn’t done as often as it seems online. I am sure it will be fresh and exciting to your guests.
As to the purple bridesmaid dresses, it is a common color in some areas but not in others. I love purple and if I had to buy what could be an expensive dress, I would much rather own a pretty purple one than say a lime green or bright orange one. Neither of those would work with my coloring where purple works with almost everyone’s coloring.
Relax and enjoy your day! You have great taste.