(Closed) So we will be married the day before we get married…?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@peachacid:  A lot of places (from what I’ve read) suggest you go get your marriage license/certificate by at least the Tuesday before your weekend ceremony.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I’m not sure if just signing the marriage certificate is enough to make you legally married, or if it hinges on you actually saying your vows. (Any Bees out there with a law background who can weigh in on this one?) As far as most people in society would be concerned (including myself if I were in your shoes) I think most of them won’t regard you as really married until you say the vows. I think that’s why people use the expression “married on paper” when they want to indicate that it’s something less than a real marriage.

ETA: by what I said above, if I signed a license on a Friday before a ceremony that took place on a Saturday, I wouldn’t regard myself as actually married until after the ceremony on Saturday.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Our officiant would not let us sign our marriage certificate until after the ceremony.  We, and our witnesses, signed it immediately after the ceremony and then the officiant took care of mailing it in.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

According to our officiant, you need three things to make a marriage legal:

  1. The signed marriage certificate.
  2. An officiant of some sort announcing/proclaiming you as married.
  3. Witnesses. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can’t mail the paperwork after the wedding or drop it off on Monday? I’m a little surprised that the officiant is signing this for you prior to you taking your vows. Typically they will not do this as the may have their rights to marry revoked because they are saying they witnessed you saying your vows.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The way I understand it, you go an apply for a marriage license in advance.  You sign that after your ceremony with your officiant and witnesses.  Then it’s filed with the county or state, at which point you are legally married.

Post # 9
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You aren’t legally married until you sign/ say vows at ceremony performed by a licensed officiant and file the document.

So you could get the license and then never file it and therefor not be married.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2010

when i got married we had to go and apply to get the license, which we did get right away… but we didn’t get the certificate until after we were married 🙂 and a lot of states require that you get the license ahead of time, sometimes there is a certain amount of time that you are required to have it before you can get married. every state is different though! 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

In Wa you have to get the license at min 3 days before the ceremony. At the ceremony the offiant, bride/groom, and 2 witnesses sign it. Then I think we have like 10 days or something to file it or we end up doing the whole thing for nothing! 😛

ETA: We’re picking ours up next Monday. Woot Woot!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2010

maybe he means you have to sign your marriage license first… now that would make sense. the certificate comes after you are married! if i remember correctly, our chaplan either already had our certificate the day of our ceremony, or he had it mailed to us shortly afterwards! it’s been a while. i do know for sure though that we didn’t have it before we were married! 🙂 and when my sister got married they signed their certificate after their ceremony, as well as my best friend when she got married! 🙂

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@iheartsquishy:  yeah ours went something like that too… i believe our chaplain filed ours for us. in TN (the state we were married in) i believe the license expires after 30 days, but i am not sure what the wait period is for it (there may not be one at all)!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@iheartsquishy:  congrats on your soon to be wedding!! 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah here we will apply for one up to 30 days before the wedding.  Once we have it though its not “official” until the officiant and witnesses sign it the day of the wedding, and it get mailed to the state.  It is confusing when you start looking at it though.  

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