Post # 1
I thought there was some interesting discussions in the other thread before it was closed. So, if there was a symbol used in jewelry that had an important meaning and was an important symbol in a particular religion, would you wear it because you liked the way it looked? If you are not part of that religion, would you be able to ignore the religious significance of the piece and be able to wear it purely as a fashion accessory?
Would your opinion change if it was a gift from a friend/parent/significant other, or would you be willing to buy it for yourself?
Post # 3
I just bought a rose gold cross necklace because it was really pretty. I was raised Catholic although I no longer practice.
i’m not sure i would feel comfortable wearing another symbol that wasnt part of “my” religion. However, if it was a gift from my husband I would happily accept.
Post # 4
I have an odd collection of pendents I have found- most of them are religous. When I was a young girl I found a charm with Jesus on it. I am Jewish- but still wear it.
I also wear Buddha, ying/yang (Which is a religous symbol), a cross.
For me they are just shapes. I mean there are definite shape/symbols I will NOT wear (especailly any of hatred). But if they have a peaceful or good message behind them I will wear them
Post # 5
@pixiecat: No, I would not. As a Christian, I would not want to wear a religious symbol that is associated with a faith or belief system that would conflict with my own.
ETA: I should note that I would be happy to wear certain symbols of the Jewish faith (a star of David, for example), because Judaism is foundational to my Christian beliefs.
Post # 6
Eh it doesn’t bother me. I have several cross necklaces that I do not put any thought of religion on it. To me it is just a pretty necklace
Post # 7
It depends. The cross trend was big a few years ago, but they were obviously not meant to associate with the religion. Whereas something like a small cross pendant or a star of david would represent to me as a symbol of religion and worn by a member of the religion. I would personally not want to wear something where it may come across to someone else that I may be a member of the religion, because I am personally anti-religion.
I would be offended if someone gave me something religious to wear, since I am an atheist, and this is obvious to anyone who knows me.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I voted for “ignore the relgiious significance” and “buy it myself” because I’ve done that before with Celtic stuff. I think it looks awesome, but I don’t believe in all the stuff they say it stands for. I feel the same way about Asian stuff (yin/yang, etc).
I think the only thing I couldn’t ignore the religious significance of would be crosses and Jewish stars. But maybe that’s because I’m Christian. 😛
Post # 9
I voted I wouldn’t, but then I remembered a religious necklace that I inherited from my great grandma. I don’t practice her religion but I wear the necklace and love it, but only because the sentimental value overpowers the religious symbolism to me
Post # 10
@208bride: That’s a good point. I suppose if a dying relative gave me something like that as a rememberance gift, I would appreciate it. I’m still not sure I would wear it out and about, but it would be a cherished gift due to the sentimental value.
Post # 11
Like I said in that other thread… this is HARD. I wouldn’t like to think that I was somehow mocking others by wearing their symbols. I also wouldn’t want to do anything under false pretenses.
That said, I have worn hijab before, partly as a gesture of respect and partly to fit in socially and avoid trouble. Also, they really are a very practical garment in the heat, and they can be really quite glamorous.
… but again, that said… I would never wear niqab, because of my cultural background and social beliefs. Compromise only goes so far.
It would really depend on what the symbol was. For example, a friend once gave me a necklace to ward off the evil eye. I don’t believe in the evil eye (although I admit that I consider it to be superstitious and cultural rather than religious) but I still wore the necklace.This raises several issues…
– Do I believe that belief in the evil eye is opposed to my own beliefs? No. Although I don’t believe in it. Maybe that makes it easier?
– Even if the gift was opposed in some way, would I wear it? Ouch… I would have to say no. I couldn’t wear anything which was diametrically opposed to my own beliefs. For example, even though I’m a huge alt rock, heavy metal and piercing and tattoo fan, I’ve never owned or worn anything with a satanist symbol on it. I just… couldn’t. It seems like such hypocrisy and dishonesty.
On the face of it, I would say that this was an easy question to answer… G-d hates a hypocrite, honesty is important, blah blah blah. But I think it’s actually more complicated than that… social relationships can be tricksy.
Post # 12
Not only would I not feel comfortable wearing a religious symbol, I do not think it is appropriate to reduce something that has significance in that religion to a fashion accessory. I would also decline the gift in most circumstances. My great aunt was a nun for almost 80 years (became a nun at 18, died at 96) and she once gave me a necklace with a cross and dove on it, I accepted it but never wore it. My grandmother is also very religious (frequently voices her opinion that homosexuals and athiests are what is wrong with the world…) and I would accept a religious gift from her, but would not use it. That is not a battle worth fighting. But anyone else I would not accept the gift.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I don’t wear any religious jewelry anymore before I don’t want people to identify me with a certain religion since I am agnostic. I’m not very style saavy so I could never say that I wear something as a fashion statement.
Post # 14
No, I would not, today.
I used to wear crosses as accessories in my teens before I became a Christian. I think I also wore necklaces etc, with pagan symbols. I had zero understanding of these things and zero interest in them. They “looked cool” to me, so I wore them. I didn’t care about anything else.
Post # 15
I got an heirloom gold cross from my grandmother (a gift from her father) when I coverted to LDS. I wore it frequently, even though LDS doesn’t use a cross!
She was just happy I appreciated religion, like her!
Post # 16
@pixiecat: I guess i don’t care enough to let it get to me if other people do it, but I do have a funny story related to this.
A few weeks ago, we had my bridal shower and bachelorette all in one afternoon/evening. We were at the shower, and my sister noticed my small cross necklace and asked if I was going to be wearing it out that night. When I asked her why, she said that she had just bought a bunch of cross jewelry at Charlotte Russe for the night out and didn’t want us to match! I just laughed and told her that mine was a religious cross and not a fashion trend, so yes I would be wearing it ;P