S/O Wedding Party Emergency — What's the Plan B?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Do you have a backup plan, in case of emergency?
    No, because #YOLO or I just didn't think of it : (24 votes)
    71 %
    Yes, because it's better to have a plan and not need it, than need a plan and not have it : (4 votes)
    12 %
    Maybe, I haven't given it much thought, but certainly will! : (6 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    If the key person was our celebrant, we are lucky enough to have a minister as a guest, so I will ask him to run through the usual wedding, and we will do all of the formal paperwork afterwards. 

    Great thread… You’ve really got me thinking! I had a wet-weather plan, but not a person missing plan!

    Post # 3
    Member
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    One of the GM won’t be able to make it because of out of town work issues. No big deal, his name will be in the programs and the BM he was paired with will walk down the aisle with one of my FBIL. 

    For the vendors, I have really no plan. Now I am a little bit scared.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3432 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    If  wedding party member couldn’t make it, we would have gone on with just the other wedding party member.  The members of my wedding party were my adult children, and I didn’t make a spare child for that purpose.

    There really weren’t a lot of critical vendors.  It seemed unlikely the rabbi or synagogue would just back out at the last moment.  The luncheon after the ceremony was at a restaurant, and if for some reason the whole thing had closed down, we could just have gone to the next closest restaurant in the same chain.  The at-home reception venue had several staff members, so one being missing wouldn’t have been a big deal.  We were a bit nervous about our ceremony hair and make-up person, but decided we could do our own if she didn’t show up.  If the photographer hadn’t showed up, we would just have depended on all our friends with digital cameras.  And there was nothing else critical enough so that we wouldn’t have been able to go forward without it.

    Post # 5
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    7395 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    bitsybee:  I think there is a big difference between replacing a vendor and a bridal party member.

    If a vendor backs out last minute they are usually professional enough to have a back up for you. It is usually in your contract.

    Replacing a bridal party member is just rude. You are basically saying you the person are not as important to me as the function or role you were to play in my wedding.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4810 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Any good photographers, officians, wedding planners, band, etc have their own back-up system. I almost had a bridesmaid unable to come, but I wasn’t going to replace her (it crossed my mind, but I didn’t feel right about it). 

    Post # 7
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    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    bitsybee:  We had plan Bs for everything which I think helped leading up to the day. Neither of us were the least bit stressed lol. I think for our celebrant not turning up our plan was to get the BM to stand in, say our vows, carry on as normal and then go into a registry office the next morning before our honeymoon, as for the photographer, we knew a few people with good cameras so that would have been fine. The night before we were talking about what we would do if the kitchen caught fire and decided we would make the venue order us all pizza at their cost. Our ceremony was outdoors and we decided if it poured down we would shoot into the mall before the reception and get a change of clothes (it would be a good story at least, running around in a soaking wet wedding dress)<br /><br />Honestly, I think there’s a way around everything and at the end of the day you’ve got all your friends and family around celebrating love, it’s gonna be a good day. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    3934 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    bitsybee:   We have a plan B in place and sure hope we don’t need it!!  

    Post # 15
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    That’s a very good point re. children!

    I just re-read our contracts with our photographer and celebrant- they’ll provide us with a replacement person should they be unable to fulfil their duties. Phew! Caterer will be cross examined next time I meet with him, but he’s from a relatively large team, so they should be able to cover each other in case of illness.

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