(Closed) So weird–and I also find it tacky/rude…

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe they didn’t intend to register but they were getting pressure so they set up a hasty registry.  I wouldn’t be too annoyed.  Just give them a check like you were planning.

Post # 4
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18624 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s so strange.  Especially since they only have very few things on each one.

Post # 6
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

don’t waste your time being annoyed with them. Just go ahead with what you were originally going to get them, cash. Then if they really really wanted something they can go out and buy it themselves.

Post # 7
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

A facebook reminder about your wedding is really just in poor taste.  I would be annoyed too.  And it does seem a little strange to set up a registry two weeks before your wedding.

Post # 8
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636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, the FB reminder is totally strange – but you never know – after you asked them about a registry maybe everyone came out of the woodwork and said ‘whaaat? you aren’t registered?’ so they did it and sent out the reminder to make sure everyone knew since people had already asked and they said they didn’t have one? Who knows – I def do agree that it is strange, and stranger yet that they registered for a few things.  But then again maybe they are planning on registering for more when they have time…haha, not trying to make excuses for bad behavior, just thinking aloud (in print.)  😉

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Why are so many people annoyed with facebook reminders? It’s something a lot of people check on a regular basis. I personally feel pretty offended when people say this or that is tacky when it comes to other people’s weddings. It’s their wedding. It’s not nice to look down on others because they choose to do things in an unconventional way that doesn’t follow wedding etiquette. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

A facebook reminder? That is very weird.

Post # 11
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195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

A facebook reminder for an event makes perfect sense to me; especially for friends who haven’t rsvp’d. I am doing it.

Post # 13
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, Hilsy, that is kind of weird, and a liiiittle tacky, depending on the circumstances. IMO, your time to make your registry known is when invites go out, for the wedding, the shower(s), and depending on what’s customary in your region and/or culture, the engagement party. Now, if they’re really broke and just simply weren’t able to get all that together, then I understand the Facebook thing. However, it’s a little odd to do a registry so last minute like that, especially after they went and explicitly told you they weren’t registered.

And I disagree with some of the comments here; not everyone checks their Facebook all the time. And even if you do, you might miss any reminders they’ve posted on their page, if you have a ton of friends in your news feed!

EDIT: OK, so I just scrolled up, and I see that this is a black tie wedding, and your FI’s a groomsman? UM, LOL. Seriously, then what gives? I don’t blame you at all for feeling annoyed then!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the whole situation is weird. Black tie and you’re sending out facebook announcements less than 2 weeks before the big day with registry info?

I understand why some people use facebook for rsvp’s or event reminders, but in my own personal opinion, I think it’s very informal and not appropriate for this wedding. Not everyone lives on facebook and checks it that often!

I just recently received a facebook STD and my instant reaction was “whaaat is this?”

hilsy85- I would be totally annoyed in your position!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah, this is a little weird. But I agree with the above posts, it sounds like they hastily registered last minute (either because of pressure or just changed their minds) and this was the best way they coud think of to spread the word. Either way, AWKWARD!

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