Post # 1
We’re going to the wedding of two good friends next weekend. We asked them about two weeks ago if they’re registered anywhere, even though I’d looked them up on the registry finder and didn’t find them. They said, “No we’re not registered.” That’s fine, we figured we’d give cash, which we probably would do even if they were registered.
Last night, we’re out with a friend who’s also invited to the wedding. He says, “Oh did you get the facebook reminder for N and S’s wedding?” Whaaa??? Apparently they sent out a FACEBOOK reminder for their wedding and included their registry information in it–and they’re apparently now registred at four places. Even though we asked them about it two weeks ago and they didn’t mention anything about registering. WHich means they did it all in the last two weeks and felt the need to remind everyone about it.
Not to mention, I just looked at her registried and they are SO strange–she has just a cake stand on one, 4 picture frames on another, 4 pillows on a third, and NOTHING on the fourth! I feel unreasonabley annoyed by this whole thing, lol.
Post # 3
Maybe they didn’t intend to register but they were getting pressure so they set up a hasty registry. I wouldn’t be too annoyed. Just give them a check like you were planning.
Post # 4
That’s so strange. Especially since they only have very few things on each one.
Post # 5
@MarzipanMrs: Oh I”m still planning on giving them the check…yeah, I guess I can see how maybe they were being bugged to make one, it just seems so weird to send out a facebook reminder for your wedding and then be like, and by the way, here’s our registry information.
Post # 6
don’t waste your time being annoyed with them. Just go ahead with what you were originally going to get them, cash. Then if they really really wanted something they can go out and buy it themselves.
Post # 7
A facebook reminder about your wedding is really just in poor taste. I would be annoyed too. And it does seem a little strange to set up a registry two weeks before your wedding.
Post # 8
Yeah, the FB reminder is totally strange – but you never know – after you asked them about a registry maybe everyone came out of the woodwork and said ‘whaaat? you aren’t registered?’ so they did it and sent out the reminder to make sure everyone knew since people had already asked and they said they didn’t have one? Who knows – I def do agree that it is strange, and stranger yet that they registered for a few things. But then again maybe they are planning on registering for more when they have time…haha, not trying to make excuses for bad behavior, just thinking aloud (in print.) 😉
Post # 9
Why are so many people annoyed with facebook reminders? It’s something a lot of people check on a regular basis. I personally feel pretty offended when people say this or that is tacky when it comes to other people’s weddings. It’s their wedding. It’s not nice to look down on others because they choose to do things in an unconventional way that doesn’t follow wedding etiquette.
Post # 10
A facebook reminder? That is very weird.
Post # 11
A facebook reminder for an event makes perfect sense to me; especially for friends who haven’t rsvp’d. I am doing it.
Post # 12
@Joshs Girl: This wasn’t for people who hadn’t RSVP’d (their RSVP date waslike a month ago). This was just to remind people that the wedding is taking place.
@sandypie: didn’t mean to offend you with my post–I just find it strange because 1. it is a black tie wedding and the fbook reminder just seems out of place with that and 2.I personally don’t need a reminder like that. I’m a big girl, I can keep track of my schedule without reminders from other people, especially since my FI is a groomsman in the wedding. Don’t think we’d forget to show up, lol.
@ms.marzipan: hah yeah, who knows what their reasoning was. It’s not so much that I think it’s bad behavior, just that those are the strangest registries I’ve seen, lol. But maybe that’s really all they need.
Post # 13
No, Hilsy, that is kind of weird, and a liiiittle tacky, depending on the circumstances. IMO, your time to make your registry known is when invites go out, for the wedding, the shower(s), and depending on what’s customary in your region and/or culture, the engagement party. Now, if they’re really broke and just simply weren’t able to get all that together, then I understand the Facebook thing. However, it’s a little odd to do a registry so last minute like that, especially after they went and explicitly told you they weren’t registered.
And I disagree with some of the comments here; not everyone checks their Facebook all the time. And even if you do, you might miss any reminders they’ve posted on their page, if you have a ton of friends in your news feed!
EDIT: OK, so I just scrolled up, and I see that this is a black tie wedding, and your FI’s a groomsman? UM, LOL. Seriously, then what gives? I don’t blame you at all for feeling annoyed then!
Post # 14
I think the whole situation is weird. Black tie and you’re sending out facebook announcements less than 2 weeks before the big day with registry info?
I understand why some people use facebook for rsvp’s or event reminders, but in my own personal opinion, I think it’s very informal and not appropriate for this wedding. Not everyone lives on facebook and checks it that often!
I just recently received a facebook STD and my instant reaction was “whaaat is this?”
hilsy85- I would be totally annoyed in your position!
Post # 15
Yeah, this is a little weird. But I agree with the above posts, it sounds like they hastily registered last minute (either because of pressure or just changed their minds) and this was the best way they coud think of to spread the word. Either way, AWKWARD!