(Closed) so what if you look terrible EVERY dress? feeling really discouraged (pic heavy)

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think the last one looks pretty good.  I am having the same problem…I guess I thought a wedding dress would make me look beautiful (cause that’s what they tell you on tv…) but it’s not going to happen.  So…I am going to try to find a pretty dress and hope it works out okay.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Dont get discouraged. You are not alone in feeling this way. I felt the same way. We are often really hard on ourselves and super critical.

 

Have you thought about going out by yourself and looking at dresses. I find it much easier (in general) to go shopping by myself versus going out with friends. I think it can be easier to find something when there is less pressure and you are only looking to please yourself at the time. If you go out by yourself and find a dress you like THEN ask friends to come look.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you look beautiful in that last gown – I said “wow” when I saw it because I think it clearly stands out from the others. You DO NOT look terrible in everything and you ARE NOT getting married in sweatpants!

I personally would go and try a different David’s – it sounds like you got a terrible saleslady and that colored your experience badly. 🙁

(And hey, Vows! Yeah, even as a size 12 I was a bit discouraged there.)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

OMG that last one looked awesome!!! It made your waist so tiny!!! Showed all the right curves! The rouching was fabulous for you!!!  It wasn’t fitted perfectly so maybe that’s why you don’t like it as much?? Honestly, I wasn’t a huge fan of the earlier dresses but that last one is really the perfect shape and cut for you (maybe some small adjustment of the neckline though, you look like a sweetheart neckline would be better for you, esp. with that cut of dress to show you off).  I think it’s pretty clear you look best in a slight fit-and-flare (flaring just under the hips) or a modified A-line. You WILL find the perfect dress for you–remember we are our own worst critics!!!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

I wrote almost the exact same post about 6 months ago. My first dress appointment last about an hour, and I cried the entire time. I was so horrified that I didn’t go shopping for another 2 months. I was a 16 and they somehow squeezed me into size 8 and 10 dresses and I looked like a stuffed sausage.

Trust me, you will eventually find a dress that looks perfect on you. Research stores in your area that carry larger sample sizes so you will feel more comfortable. You will find one! And for what it’s worth, I dont think any of those dresses look horrible on you. We are our own worst critic.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Have you tried on other necklines besides strapless? I think a fuller skirt would also be great on you!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Actually, I really like the one that your friend liked too! I think you look great in it! It really defines your figure and I think it is more flattering than the other ones you tried. The first one is really pretty too. If you don’t like your arms, a lace jacket will do wonders (there is nothing wrong with your arms but i understand that everybody has their own ‘trouble” zone).

You are WAY too hard on yourself! Just keep on trying dresses and keep an open mind, and I am sure you will find one that makes you feel like a million bucks!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Hang in there – you have tons of time, first of all, and there are lots of fish in the sea.

Next time you go out looking, you might want to try to see some different silhouettes. All the pics you posted seem to be strapless A-lines. Maybe see how you’d look in something with a V-neck? Something with sleeves? Try a few different skirt shapes? Etc. You will find something that works for you, I promise.

Post # 11
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Hirondelle:  Portsmouth!  I am getting married in Portsmouth!  Also grew up there.  =)

Post # 12
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1438 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The last one doesnt look that bad, and once you get it in your size it will look much better! have you tried a ballgown? it might work with your shape better, dont give up, I have to go 3 times before I found mine. and if your dont like it on the hanger, try it anyways. I hated my dress I refused to try it on, but my sister made me, and i fell in love with it.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@bearlove:  +100 internets. OP, she is giving you some great advice. The third dress, while not the right size which would look less than flattering on anyone, is close to the right shape for you. The flare needs to start a little higher up, closer to your hips and it would be MUCH more flattering in a sweetheart neckline since you look like you’re fairly busty.

I would also make sure you look at dresses that “V” in the back vs a straight-across bodice. The corsets are nice, but I would still go for something that dips a little lower because I think that takes some pressure off of the armpit/shoulderblade area. I have a relatively slender figure and I had to V my dress in the back because it was pinching stuff in all the wrong places and making me look like I was bigger than I am.

Don’t be discouraged! You are closer to your perfect dress than you think 🙂

Post # 15
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Last dress definitely looked the best. Move in that direction. Stay away from David’s Bridal. Those people are the devil. They are in it for a quick buck, not to provide a supportive environment for what can be a very delicate and important shopping experience. Also, try looking for something halter or cap sleaves. 

Good luck! I found my dress the first one I tried on, and I’m a little jealous of girls who get to try on dress after dress! Grass is always greener on the other side!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You need to get an idea of what looks good on you—I think the last dress was a step in the right direction, maybe it’s not THE dress but the shape is nice–I would even go to other stores with that picture and say you’re looking for dresses with a similar shape but diff details

I went to davids and hated pretty much everything–I looked like such a heifer in everything–I DID learn that corset backs are my friend, as are trumpet and mermaid cuts. That led me to my dress–Alfred Angelo’s Ariel (the 1st one). 

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