Post # 1
I am Googling and looking up different ideas for the order of the ceremony/reception and my Fiance insists that we do the toasts during the reception. I always thought you did them during the rehearsal dinner, but he realllly wants to do it on the actual wedding day with all of our family and friends, and since he only has offered up a few ideas he wants to stick with I figured it didn’t matter to me what we did…
So, do they always have to come after everyone is seated for dinner and gotten their food? Do you have to use champagne or just make sure most everybody has a drink already? Who starts it ( I have read online the DJ can, Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, Father of the Bride…)?
We are having a buffett style dinner, should be wait untilt he last person gets done before going ahead with them?
Post # 4
I think this varies from region to region but the way we do it here is you usually have an MC. So they are the ones to get things started. You start at the end of dinner. Typical speeches are toast to bride, toast to groom, toast to bridesmaids/groomsmen, welcome to the family, thank you from bride and groom. If you have an MC then you have someone to coordinate all of this and announce each speech.
Post # 5
I am having the same dilema as you so I hope someone can shed some light on the issue!
Post # 6
@PuntaCanaBride: thank you! so do you hire an MC, make it a family friend, day of coordinator?
I think it is pretty regional… I haven’t ever been to a wedding where this was done ( or ever been to a wedding with a seating chart or receiving line haha)
Post # 7
I’ve only ever seen the bride and groom being toasted after short speeches being given by the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. As parents, we never said a word, seperatley, but certainly worked the rooms and thanked all the guests for coming and celebrating.
One daughter and her husband did thank everyone for coming after dinner (just took a minute or two at the mic) and the other did not.
At my nephew’s wedding a few weeks ago, they were toasted by the Bridesmaid or Best Man (really long-winded which I think is unnecessary), shorter by the Maid/Matron of Honor and a one minute thank you by the Bride’s Dad.
It can be planned however you want it to go.
Post # 8
I think a lot of this are based on bride and groom preference. We didn’t want our guests to sit through endless speeches at the reception because we wanted to keep the energy up, so our Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man spoke at the rehearsal dinner. Our parents each gave a toast at the reception during dinner at the reception, and we gave a quick thank you from the bride and groom (I literally said one sentence…I hate speaking into the microphone!) before the cake cutting.
Our MC was our band leader, but typically if you have a DJ that person can serve as the MC. Otherwise, you could probably assign a friend or family member to do it!
Post # 9
My dad gave a welcome toast after the bridal party had entered. He thanked everyone for being there and then shared some wisdom (and jokes) for us to take with us into our marriage.
Then, we got dinner started, and as dinner was winding down, our DJ (who served as our MC) invited the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man up to do their toasts.
For us, a champagne toast for all guests was included. I’ve often been to weddings at which only the bridal party has champagne, and everyone else toasts with whatever drink they happen to have.
We didn’t do any speeches at our rehearsal dinner.
Post # 10
Most of the weddings I’ve been to has been.. Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man, both bride and groom parent’s (although my parents say they don’t want to speak.. I’m kind of hurt by that) and then either bride and groom together but only one speaks to thank, or both say a little something.
Last wedding I went to they had both sets of parents, Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man, bride which all spoke for 5-10 mins each and then groom talked for 40 effing minutes. It was PAINFUL!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Ours went like this:
- Everyone seated at the table
- Mr. LK’s welcome speech (we paid for everything, so we were the hosts and wanted to thank everyone for attending)
- 1st course served
- Best Man and Matron of Honor speeches
- 2nd course served
- Family speeches (My dad as rep for my family, Mr. LK’s Aunt as rep for his family, Teen LK to make every single person in the room cry)
- 3rd course served
- 4th course served, mingling ensued
We had prosecco for toasting, but people could also use whatever was poured in their glass at that moment. Ours was a small group of our closest family and friends, and the speeches were a highlight of the day. I wish we had hired a videographer to record them. When teen Lk spoke I was the proudest momma on the face of the earth. The servers had tears in their eyes, for goodness sake! Everyone was given a 5 minute time limit, and i told them it would be like the Oscarss… if they went over time, the DOC would steadily crank up the volume of the background music to drown them out! LOL
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for the input.. I am definitely thinking short and sweet…
Maybe Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and then a rep from each family ( my mom or dad and his mom, dad or one of his aunts) 3-4 min max for each and everyone just keep the drink they have and bridal party have some champagne that we then toast with when we do the cake cutting immediately after… hows that sound?
Here is what I have dratfed up in my head so far:
Everyone makes their way to the reception site..
1- we make our entrance
2- start the food line and get that going
3- after everyone is seated and eating we will have the toast as I mentioned earlier^^
4- go from that to the cake cutting/eating
5- then do all of the first dance stuff haha
6- dancing, drinking, eating, mingling
7- wrapping up the night with the bouquet and garter toss
8- dance, drink, talk to everyone more and then
9- the big send off and happily ever after.
What am I missing?