Post # 1
The restaurant where we are having our little dinner reception suggest drink tickets as a way to control alcohol costs and pre-determine our spending. They said I could pick a few options in my price range and they would let guests know that the drink tickets were good for this or that white wine, this or that red wine, this or that beer, or this or that drink. Whatever options we want to offer.
I’ve just been seeing a lot of negative comments on the whole drink ticket thing.
If we don’t do drink tickets then I’m back to not knowing what to do. I want to have wine, beer as an option and champagne enough for toasts (but I would be fine without champagne, but I get the feeling it is very much something strongly expected?)..
We are not big drinkers. So I honestly didn’t think much about this at first. Fiance and I will very very rarely go out to a club, have a 2 or 3 drinks, and dance. Or sometimes Fiance will have a couple beers… she can buy a six pack and it will be here for six months! I like a glass of red wine but it’s rare and when I do, I usually only have 2 glasses max.
So anyway, if we just select a couple bottles of wine for each table, then I am lost on what to choose and what about those who want beer?
I think the drink tickets sound easiest by far… but I am wondering why some people don’t like this idea.
It’s just hard to find a balance between being considerate hosts and not going over budget due to alcohol.
Hell I don’t even know how we’re supposed to figure soda / tea into the budget!
Post # 3
I think Drink Tickets are a fine idea. I am with you..I dont understand why there are so many negative comments on here about them…
Post # 4
I think drink tickets are fine. But then again I’m biased! I used drink tickets at my wedding and it was so helpful. Although our bar was very varied it was just helpful to the bar staff to distinguish who was part of the wedding and who wasn’t. Will you also have waiters who’ll be able to take drinks orders at the tables? As that will help because then they can give the options verbally and the guests can just choose. I’d also make up some drinks menus of what is on offer and put them on each table, that way they know before they go to the bar what the drinks ticket is valid for.
Post # 5
I think drink tickets are perfectly fine. Do what works for you!
Post # 6
@bestbuddies: Thanks.. I don’t understand it either!
@littlemissmoo: Yes, it’s just a restaurant reception… so basically just a large party dinner. We will have a private “party room” and they want us to limit the food menu to 4 choices but other than that it will be like any other “going out to dinner” experience, for the most part, which is what I wanted. I’m not sure how they will indicate what the drink options are but I just emailed to ask. They talked about printing up menus for the food so I imagine they will just put the drink options on there too.
I didn’t want to have to think about renting a big empty place and then tables, chairs, linens, caterers. I don’t think I could deal with all that! I’m having enough trouble with what is relatively simple! lol!
Post # 7
The only negative with drink tickets that I can think of is if people didn’t expect it and thus had no cash to buy drinks after their two drinks had been consumed.
Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with them and actually like the idea so you aren’t going overboard on the budget just so people can drink. It should also help keep people from getting overly drunk. I think that people to drink more when they think it is unlimited and free.
Ask you venue about the other drink options. My venue includes tea, water, and punch for free but everything else we have to cover.
Post # 8
@Nola: thanks… I actually just emailed about that too! Out of our 49 on our list, 10 are children… and I know that I, personally, won’t drink more than one or two glasses of wine (I am much more inclined to drink water or ice tea).. so I am waiting to hear what they say about the non-alcoholic drinks.
I just want to get the numbers down NOW if at all possible.
And I agree.. I’m no puritan about drinking but I also come from a family with a lot of alcohol “issues” and I’d rather keep it conservative if at all possible when it comes to that. Especially my mom. Too much alcohol + my mom = mean b***h and stressed out daughter. No thanks!!
Post # 9
The whole drink ticket/open bar thing is really regional. Where I am from, you have an open bar, period, for an evening wedding (or dry, but that would be unusual). I went with the cheapest level because most of my family/friends don’t drink a lot of hard liquor (the beer and wine selections were the same). I never actually have been to a wedding with drink tickets or cash bars, but it appears to be very common in some parts of the country. However, I think the certain ticket for certain types of drinks is confusing. I would work with the venue to just make it for an alcoholic beverage. At that point, I don’t think it’s necessary to put additional wine on the table. I also don’t think Champagne is expected (well, I don’t expect it. I am having it because I really love a certain type of sparkling wine. If I didn’t care for it, I probably wouldn’t have bothered.
Yours is a tight knit group so I am sure most people understand the non-budgetary reasons for limiting the alcohol and hopefully support you in that.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t worry too much. I am probably not even having a real reception after my Vegas ceremony, because we just dont’ have any money. I have discussed this with lots of my friends, and they just want to come and go out afterwards to a club and bar and don’t care if they pay their own way. I feel so lucky to have such awesome friends who would travel just to be a witness to our marriage. I am sure you will find as much love too. People who get all snooty about it are the ones who never should have been invited, or bothered to come.
The economy is not in a great place. I think people are just happy to enjoy a fun time with friends, family and maybe some good tune. :o)
Post # 11
I really don’t think there is a problem with that. I don’t see why it’s ever mandatory at weddings to provide alcohol for your guests, especially since you’re already buying them dinner! Just my opinion. I’ve been to weddings where there weren’t even favors and I wasn’t insulted or upset by it. The tickets thing seems affordable and fair. You’ll be providing some alcohol for them, just not unlimited.
Post # 12
We have been worried about this as well but finally decided to stay within our budget. The caterer serves water, tea and lemonade. We will be including two drink tickets for each person with their invitation (good for soda, beer, wine) and anything else is available through a cash bar.
I’m giving everyone two drinks, then they have the option of purchasing more. If they don’t want more, they can drink tea or lemonade. Period. That’s our budget. It’s our family and friends and it is on our website and will also be on our invitations.
Just a side note for those DIY’ers….we’re ordering FREE business cards to use as our drink coupons from VistaPrint. I love saving $
Post # 13
I don’t see anything wrong with drink tickets. I’ve been to lots of weddings with drink tickets. One wedding I went to bought little silver rings (come in bags of 100) at the dollar store and gave a few to each guest. This tied in nicely with the wedding theme! Do what you feel will help stay within your budget! I’m NEVER offended when I show up at a wedding and there are drink tickets.
Post # 14
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with drink tickets, and they can be really cute too. My only thought is that, if it is possible, you might want to provide non-alcoholic drinks all night. Maybe the venue as a deal because soda is super cheap for them anyways.
Post # 15
I don’t see anything wrong with drink tickets. In fact there may be an added benefit…It lessens the chance of people going overboard with alcohol consumption.
Post # 16
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, personally. I think they’re cute and practical–no sense letting people get totally smashed on your dime.